Op you sound extremely hateful! There's no way the story you tell is completely true. You need to get help and find kindness in your heart. Focus on your own life and friends. Stop trying to compete with your SIL. Stop trying to cause drama or even be involved in drama with your brother and his marriage. Learn to be a better person.

Wishing divorce on your nieces and nephews shows how little you care about them and how much it's just a competition to you. If you cared about them at all you would do everything you could to avoid them having to shuttle between parents, have their home broken up, and their lives upended. You've obviously never heard a kid beg to have their dad move back home. Not to mention your brother paying for two households. You are either incredibly naive about divorce or so hateful to outsiders that you'd rather see your bro and his kids suffer than find a way to share them with her. Not surprised she avoids you like a plague. They are better off without someone like you, frankly, than divorced.

Anonymous wrote:Everything you posted in your replies suggest you are completely crazy. Have fun attacking someone in an anonymous forum where no one can assess the facts to determine just how crazy you are. From the facts you have posted here, you are crazy. Then you added more to try to delegitimize her further. You need to see a therapist. Stay away from your brother and let him live his life. You sound like poison.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister in law holds the kids hostage from my parents and uses them as bribes for money. My parents paid for half the house and she told me she's not selling until they die, because she doesn't want to give the money back. The days she's all about family, yet plans events when no one on my brothers side can attend. We have holidays booked, she plans parties while we are away. She's so mean to my brother.

They don't currently have plans to divorce, but my parents and I are crossing our fingers and hope the day comes soon. Divorced family is better than this b*tch.

Op, i feel sorry for you and hope you can stop the emnity for the children's sake.

This actually sounds a fair amount like, identical even, to how i have heard my husband's extremely controlling extended family describe in-laws. Very few of the marriages in his generation are making it, most are bitter and nasty divorces. They have hinted at this type of behavior with me but we are a team and are not having it.

Everything you posted in your replies suggest you are completely crazy. Have fun attacking someone in an anonymous forum where no one can assess the facts to determine just how crazy you are. From the facts you have posted here, you are crazy. Then you added more to try to delegitimize her further. You need to see a therapist. Stay away from your brother and let him live his life. You sound like poison.

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Anonymous wrote:Actually we don't thrive on drama- I'm perfectly pleasant and fake to her as she is to me. And yes, my brother is a spineless mute. He says he stays for the kids[/b].

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But divorce isn't the only option here. I mean, what is stopping him from bringing kids and grandparents together without an exchange of money?

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We see the kids through my brother, he brings them to my parents house and then his wife calls literally every 30 minutes asking when he's bringing them home. It's absurd. My brother is miserable and he has to say he's going to the dog park to visit his own family sometimes.

Anonymous wrote:Actually we don't thrive on drama- I'm perfectly pleasant and fake to her as she is to me. And yes, my brother is a spineless mute. He says he stays for the kids[/b].

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But divorce isn't the only option here. I mean, what is stopping him from bringing kids and grandparents together without an exchange of money?

It sounds like this is more about your and your parents' relationship with this woman than it is actually about her relationship with her husband/your brother. So, umm, maybe just don't like her and stop wishing ill things for your brother's marriage?

Anonymous wrote:Your family is probably a bunch of crazies who think they own the brother. GROW UP. Anyone that hostile about "not. getting. their. way" is by definitely completely immature.

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Her family: divorced, drug and alcohol and mental problems. Not mine. She has diagnosed borderline personality disorder.

Actually we don't thrive on drama- I'm perfectly pleasant and fake to her as she is to me. And yes, my brother is a spineless mute. He says he stays for the kids.

Your family is probably a bunch of crazies who think they own the brother. GROW UP. Anyone that hostile about "not. getting. their. way" is by definitely completely immature.

So is your brother some spineless mute? If this woman is really what you say, then direct your anger towards him for allowing this to happen. Unless, that is, you all thrive on drama.

Ps. If you think this post is about you, it is.

My sister in law holds the kids hostage from my parents and uses them as bribes for money. My parents paid for half the house and she told me she's not selling until they die, because she doesn't want to give the money back. The days she's all about family, yet plans events when no one on my brothers side can attend. We have holidays booked, she plans parties while we are away. She's so mean to my brother.

They don't currently have plans to divorce, but my parents and I are crossing our fingers and hope the day comes soon. Divorced family is better than this b*tch.