I would have addressed it right then, because it's incomprehensible to me that a guest would think it fit to use around my family. Smoking the stuff outside and then coming back is not acceptable either, because we can still smell it and witness the effects on the user.

I would contact the parents to tell them they are welcome back only if no one uses drugs.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

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We don't know if it was illegal, because OP didn't give ages of the nephews, and whether it was in DC or in another jurisdiction. Just sayin'.

You can discuss the marijuana use with their parents, but lounging on the sofa vs sitting up? You're just looking for shit to be angry about. That is NOT a big deal, or even a little deal, at all. Stop taking your anger about the drugs (I don't even consider weed a drug) and spreading it out to things that don't matter. If you bring up the couch thing, the parents will rightfully think you're nuts.

I wouldn't say they aren't invited back since they are your nephews, but I would make it extremely clear that illegal drugs cannot be on your property at all let alone USED on your property.

I'd make it more about respecting your home. "Susan I understand you and Ned might have lax rules around your house but we don't allow use of any recreational drugs in our home. While you are here, and while Max and Sam are here, we expect these rules to be followed. If you don't think you can do that I'd be happy to go to your place next time"

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Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

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That is what I would do.

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but your 16 year old does know- for sure.

do not invite them again. it is okay to just say no.

Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

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That is what I would do.

^^Also, your 16 year old knows what happened and saw you doing nothing.

Nephews are smoking weed on your porch and both you and the DH say NOTHING. What's wrong with you people? To answer your question...yes, call your sister today and tell the disrespectful nephews that they are not welcome.

Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

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How old are your nephews?

Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

If you're otherwise close with them I would bring the very valid reasons you were upset. Otherwise, I would probably wait until the time comes for another visit and make it explicitly clear that drug use is not permitted at your home. I wouldn't say anything about the nephew lounging on the couch because they may think you're nitpicking and it could discount your complaint about drug use. for what it's worth, i am very okay with smoking pot but certainly not by teenagers at someone else's house during the holidays!! that is crazy.

If you can't beat em ...

I was so angry about this, but didn't complain. My brother and sister-in-law were well aware of what they were doing and did not even blink an eye. I have a sixteen year old son (never has drunk or any drugs) and a nine year old daughter. I don't want them exposed to this behavior, although I don't think they were aware of what was going on. On top of this, one of the nephews was extremely rude and would not even sit up when we were opening gifts...he just lounged on the sofa. It also bothers me that this happened in front of my husband's family members, and it is just embarrassing to me that my family behaves in such a classless manner.

They will surely want to visit again next year, but I will want to put my foot down on drug use around my family. Should I wait until the time comes or say something now? They live 7 hours away, so I don't expect they will visit before then.