Anonymous wrote:I posted this before but Ill post again because I think its interesting. Before this minor event I have NO suspicious or complaints about my marriage. Like none. We had sex, got along, loved raising our kids, etc etc. So every M W F Sun morning I run around 5:45. Rain or shine, June or Jan, its my set schedule. I would say I miss less then 2 runs a year. One day in the middle of the winter I left the house at 5:45 and about 7 minutes into my run my earbuds broke. I was just close enough to have time to run back real quick and get a pair out of my car. So around 5:58 I turn back onto my street and through my master window I see my husband standing up and on phone. At first my heart dropped…omg a call this early is serious. But then through his body language I could tell it wasn't serious. He chuckled a little and I couldn't see his face but I could tell it wasn't an emergency. My gut just told me to go on without going it. So I grabbed my ear phones from my car and returned as normal around 7 am. I thought for sure he would tell me who called him. I thought he would say "omg so my brother called me (he has an early commute) with this funny story" or "IT called me again our work router is down." or something. But he mentioned NOTHING. So the next run I came back around 15 minutes or so after and he wasn't on the phone…room dark as normal. Then I let it go and felt guilty. Then one day the next week I came back at 6 am again and he was on the phone…and then the next day after that…and then the next week after that. And from there I learned more and more everyday.

Anonymous wrote:I posted this before but Ill post again because I think its interesting. Before this minor event I have NO suspicious or complaints about my marriage. Like none. We had sex, got along, loved raising our kids, etc etc. So every M W F Sun morning I run around 5:45. Rain or shine, June or Jan, its my set schedule. I would say I miss less then 2 runs a year. One day in the middle of the winter I left the house at 5:45 and about 7 minutes into my run my earbuds broke. I was just close enough to have time to run back real quick and get a pair out of my car. So around 5:58 I turn back onto my street and through my master window I see my husband standing up and on phone. At first my heart dropped…omg a call this early is serious. But then through his body language I could tell it wasn't serious. He chuckled a little and I couldn't see his face but I could tell it wasn't an emergency. My gut just told me to go on without going it. So I grabbed my ear phones from my car and returned as normal around 7 am. I thought for sure he would tell me who called him. I thought he would say "omg so my brother called me (he has an early commute) with this funny story" or "IT called me again our work router is down." or something. But he mentioned NOTHING. So the next run I came back around 15 minutes or so after and he wasn't on the phone…room dark as normal. Then I let it go and felt guilty. Then one day the next week I came back at 6 am again and he was on the phone…and then the next day after that…and then the next week after that. And from there I learned more and more everyday.

Anonymous wrote:I posted this before but Ill post again because I think its interesting. Before this minor event I have NO suspicious or complaints about my marriage. Like none. We had sex, got along, loved raising our kids, etc etc. So every M W F Sun morning I run around 5:45. Rain or shine, June or Jan, its my set schedule. I would say I miss less then 2 runs a year. One day in the middle of the winter I left the house at 5:45 and about 7 minutes into my run my earbuds broke. I was just close enough to have time to run back real quick and get a pair out of my car. So around 5:58 I turn back onto my street and through my master window I see my husband standing up and on phone. At first my heart dropped…omg a call this early is serious. But then through his body language I could tell it wasn't serious. He chuckled a little and I couldn't see his face but I could tell it wasn't an emergency. My gut just told me to go on without going it. So I grabbed my ear phones from my car and returned as normal around 7 am. I thought for sure he would tell me who called him. I thought he would say "omg so my brother called me (he has an early commute) with this funny story" or "IT called me again our work router is down." or something. But he mentioned NOTHING. So the next run I came back around 15 minutes or so after and he wasn't on the phone…room dark as normal. Then I let it go and felt guilty. Then one day the next week I came back at 6 am again and he was on the phone…and then the next day after that…and then the next week after that. And from there I learned more and more everyday.

Anonymous wrote:He works a pretty set schedule where his hours were concrete yet when he would get off at 1 and his work was a 10 minute drive, sometimes he would get home at 1:45 or 2 without offering an explanation. I work from home so I began to notice these patterns. He didn't owe me an explanation but I sensed something different on these days.

It was little things like that.

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Anonymous wrote:I was out of town with the kids and he was unreachable for several hours. He'd initially planned on joining us but changed his mind at the last minute. Caught him lying when he said he was home and he wasn't (confirmed by a very close friend-car wasn't there). He blamed being unreachable on "taking a drive and not having cell service", then "not hearing the phone ring in the car because his Bluetooth was messed up", then he was "mad at me and just wanted some alone time in the car to think". Turns out he'd been having several online affairs with women he met on Ashley Madison. I caught him having a physical affair (oh, and no condom, by the way). We are currently pending a divorce.

I should post this on the thread that says divorce is never the answer... (and, yes, we had a very, very active sex life and I didn't get fat).

Should I suspect an affair if my husband is unreachable for several hours as well?

Anonymous wrote:I was out of town with the kids and he was unreachable for several hours. He'd initially planned on joining us but changed his mind at the last minute. Caught him lying when he said he was home and he wasn't (confirmed by a very close friend-car wasn't there). He blamed being unreachable on "taking a drive and not having cell service", then "not hearing the phone ring in the car because his Bluetooth was messed up", then he was "mad at me and just wanted some alone time in the car to think". Turns out he'd been having several online affairs with women he met on Ashley Madison. I caught him having a physical affair (oh, and no condom, by the way). We are currently pending a divorce.

I should post this on the thread that says divorce is never the answer... (and, yes, we had a very, very active sex life and I didn't get fat).