Anonymous wrote:I think having family all present and in person is definitely the time to be discussing inheritance. People are so touchy about it nowdays, so you can't have a conversation about it over the phone or over email. And, no one visits at the same time except over Christmas. Plus, isn't the holiday supposed to be somber? Jesus died on a stake for our sins. Talking about death is the spirit of the holiday.

Okay, I'm bullshitting, but compared to the stuff I've been reading on this forum, this is no - thing.

That somber one is good Friday, but otherwise totally agree.

+1

I also think it's great to discuss this inevitable and important issue when everyone is together and jolly.

I think having family all present and in person is definitely the time to be discussing inheritance. People are so touchy about it nowdays, so you can't have a conversation about it over the phone or over email. And, no one visits at the same time except over Christmas. Plus, isn't the holiday supposed to be somber? Jesus died on a stake for our sins. Talking about death is the spirit of the holiday.

Okay, I'm bullshitting, but compared to the stuff I've been reading on this forum, this is no - thing.

No issue with that. I wish my grandparents who passed this year would have informed everyone. Instead, my aunt got beat up for executing the trust because everyone blamed her for not giving them their way.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think this is all that bad. It's important to talk about and how iften is the family all together. It's never a good time really and better to have the talk rather than not be in the same page about their wishes

I agree, it is a decent time to talk about it with the family all together. It's great for everyone to be open about their wishes and what arrangements they'd like for after death. It's especially good for those who will be executors to know in advance and get a sense of what the expectations are.

It's always better to be open and aboveboard rather than secretive.

+1 OP will probably have occasion to be grateful for their openness someday. Too many families refuse to acknowledge anything regarding aging and death. These families suffer the consequences because no one plans ahead for long-term care, etc or people are secretive about their estate plans and it creates discord when they pass away.

I wish my parents would talk about it! Instead, they spent the meal discussing politics...

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think this is all that bad. It's important to talk about and how often is the family all together? It's never a good time really and better to have the talk rather than not be in the same page about their wishes

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I totally agree

What's wrong with that discussion. It's good to let it be known, verbally, where and to whom money goES and to weigh the options such as wills verse trusts verse financial executor verse guardian, etc.

My parents even announced they paid for their burial plot in full, chose their coffins, mortgage paid off, etc so we don't have to deal with these hassles during a stressful and sad time should they pass away.

You act like theyre describing morbid thoughts when really its a healthy discusdion ofe logistics of finances

Anonymous wrote:I don't think this is all that bad. It's important to talk about and how often is the family all together? It's never a good time really and better to have the talk rather than not be in the same page about their wishes

+1

BE thankful you will know your family's wishes for when the time comes. This is a gift that some people are not given.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think this is all that bad. It's important to talk about and how iften is the family all together. It's never a good time really and better to have the talk rather than not be in the same page about their wishes

I agree, it is a decent time to talk about it with the family all together. It's great for everyone to be open about their wishes and what arrangements they'd like for after death. It's especially good for those who will be executors to know in advance and get a sense of what the expectations are.

It's always better to be open and aboveboard rather than secretive.

I don't think this is all that bad. It's important to talk about and how often is the family all together? It's never a good time really and better to have the talk rather than not be in the same page about their wishes

I don't think this is all that bad. It's important to talk about and how iften is the family all together. It's never a good time really and better to have the talk rather than not be in the same page about their wishes

Be glad at least they are discussing them. We have a war going on in our family because a relative changed a will and his lawyer mailed it to the child who had been cut out, instead of his client, the father. It's been hell in our family ever since because that child is devastated, father wants to lie and say it's not true, people are taking sides, etc. It's much better if it's out in the open and done with.

Talk about ruining the mood along with ruining the meal.
Why couldn't they just discuss this at another time?

Not to the Elderly, just be happy you are still alive with your family for another Christmas.
Geez Louise.