Your MIL was wrong to share, but your SIL did a nice thing. I like to always assume the absolute best of people unless they've truly proven ill intent. Your SIL tried to help. Be gracious and send a note "Thank you so much for the meal service - this is going to be SUCH a huge help! We would love to have you over for dinner when we're back on our feet in January. Thanks again, Stacey"

You go high. Don't address it with MIL. And from now on, don't tell her personal things - she's proven she can't keep secrets.

It takes a lot of energy to be pissed off. This is one of those times where you need to let this go. It's logical to conclude that your MIL shared this information because she was concerned. It's not like she was gossiping about something trivial. And SIL's gesture was nice. As someone looking in from the outside, I saw nothing as a "jab."

You have information now about your MIL--she blabs. And you have meals for 2 weeks. Take these things and move on.

You should be upset that MIL can't keep her mouth shut.

SIL's gift note was a bit awkward, perhaps, but she obviously came from a place of kindness and since you aren't close it isn't a surprise she didn't get it quite right.

Not wrong to be angry, but there's probably nothing to be gained from confronting MIL about it. Just stop telling her stuff you want kept private since she's proven she cannot do that.

Enjoy the food, girl. Don't get stuck on this. Just confide in someone else next time. MIL has just lost her privileges.

Well, maybe your holiday gift to SIL can be assuming that she had good intentions (to help in a busy, stressful time), if if her past behavior suggests otherwise.

Your child has medical issues. I would love a gift like that. It's a nice gift.

So I'm not trying to see the negative or making up paranoid delusions that MIL told things we asked her not to tell, it's fairly obvious she has been gossiping to SIL about us.

Sorry for not being more clear, we didn't just have daughter in hospital for medical issues. This has been ongoing financial stuff from 5 months back. Daughter is fine now and has been since early summer. We just told MIL about our financial stuff 2 1/2 weeks ago and then we get this email from SIL who did not call the entire time our daughter was ill or answer DHs messages about her blood type when we were worried LO would need transfusions.

I'm confused. What makes you think she said anything related to your finances vs they just had a child in the hospital, let's send meals. I hate people that see the negative in everything and everyone

How do you know - for a fact - that she divulged financial issues vs. your SIL sending the meal delivery service to be kind when you're dealing with medical issues? I'm guessing SIL was aware of the medical stuff and maybe wanted to send something nice to ease the burden. Since I'm guessing there's no way you can be 100% certain that your MIL said anything, I think you're being overly sensitive, and I think you should err on the side of caution and not say a word.

maybe she genuinely thought you were too busy to meal plan and shop, not that you are poor and need a handout. Either way, never tell anyone, esp you MIL it seems, anything that you don't want passed around the gossip circle.

You're right to be pissed at your MIL, but cut your SIL some slack. Presume she actually wanted to help. It makes life a lot less exhausting.

For back ground SIL is the type to make jabs. The last time we saw her she got drunk and told my husband he is a doormat in his relationships. (?)

I need some perspective here. We were having some financial problems from our child's unexpected medical expenses and included MIL in the details when she was visiting last. We are back on track now just had to wait for insurance to approve reimbursement for things we paid out of pocket for. We told her we wanted to keep it between her and us and didn't want anyone knowing because we were embarrassed.

We just got an email with gift from SIL of 2 weeks of a meal delivery service and a note saying "hope this helps you out for a bit." I'm angry that MIL shared our private money problems with SIL and then feel like the way the gift note was worded was a jab at us. I'm sensitive around the holidays anyway with in-laws so am I wrong to be angry she devulged personal information we specifically asked her not to and then have SIL throw it in our faces with this meal service?