I send flowers for extended family deaths a fair amount. Personally I think a card singed by everyone is a lovely gesture. Requires more effort than sensing flowers.

Sorry for the recent loss of your mom. I would not feel slighted. The intent of your coworkers is not to hurt anyone.

Perhaps they chose to send flowers due to the timing of the loss as others have posted.

I wouldn't read too much into it. A card was appropriate. Flowers are also appropriate.

Same thing happened to me. I guess because I was the one who always set up the flowers for deaths of family. So I only got a card.

sorry for your loss

Anonymous wrote:I watched the other 6 people in the office shower each other's desks with expensive gifts today and did not receive so much as a card.

I will be finding another job in 2017 to work with nicer people. It is time.

Did you get anyone a card or a gift?


OP-- I think it was just whoever organized the card/flowers-- probably different people and that's just how it is sometimes. Sorry for your loss.

So sorry OP for the loss of your Mother over the summer.

I agree that people in your office are sending flowers in this case because the loss happened so soon before Christmas.

It is never easy losing a family member, but it really is horrible timing when it happens at this time of the year.

You can't compare in life. Some people will get more and some will get less.

I'm sure it was just who thought of and executed it all. I know I've worked office jobs where different people would take it upon themselves to do different things for people...birthday, showers, going away etc. I might feel closer to coworker X or be privy to some inside information that others aren't so I decide to host a shower or whatever, someone else who I'm not close to has an event and no one they work directly with steps up to organize, so the boss throws a pizza party instead. It just is what it is. Be thankful for the nice card, the job w/ people you get along with and get on with life. It's also possible they didn't know where to send the flowers or they did send them and they were misdelivered or something like that.

Has NOTHING to do with you. Let it go.

Maybe because it was closer to the holidays that are "family focused"

I watched the other 6 people in the office shower each other's desks with expensive gifts today and did not receive so much as a card.

I will be finding another job in 2017 to work with nicer people. It is time.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe different people organized/led the charge. If one person circulated a card and another thought of flowers, that's just how it goes.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP.

Sorry for your loss, OP. Maybe it was the above, or maybe that person has been with the company longer? I'd try to just focus on other things right now.

Maybe different people organized/led the charge. If one person circulated a card and another thought of flowers, that's just how it goes.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP.

You need to let it go. They sent you a card. Stop keeping score.

Sorry about your mom. Maybe with the timing of his dad's passing around the holidays they felt they should go to extra lengths and send flowers.

I work in a small office - about 10 people. My mom died over the summer and my coworkers all signed a very nice sympathy card. A coworker's dad just died and the office is sending flowers. I can't help but feel hurt that I didn't get flowers. My job is part time so maybe that is why? I get along with everyone. How would you feel? I know I need to let it go...