Anonymous
12/06/2016 12:19
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Friend B needs to stop slutting it up. Also, she needs to be less crude. Less cursing, no burping contests or farting, no crass stuff.
Then she'll get a good boyfriend.
Then she'll get a good boyfriend.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 12:16
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
I bet op is girl B
Anonymous
12/06/2016 12:00
Subject: Re:Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Anonymous wrote:This is OP.
Interesting responses. Friend A is very attractive and openly suggestive. She also seems to pick the weird guys. Her ex was a jobless loser who lied to her and mooched off her for years. She is drawn to flawed people maybe because she thinks she can't do better? It isn't true. Good guys have also been attracted to her but she always ruins those relationships.
Friend B was always "prudish" and boring in high school and college. She was always conventionally attractive, stunning when she gets dressed up. Guys have always been attracted to her but avoid approaching her because something about her vibe tells them she is "too good" for them based on what they have told me. She has turned down SOOO many nice guys who would have been great boyfriends. She always told me she needs to find someone who is worth it and I always thought her expectations were too high and unreasonable.
Well...since last year I'm left eating my words. Despite having 0 romantic experience, the guy she finally said yes to seems to be quite a catch. He seems crazy about her, for one. He asked her out for a year until she finally said yes to going out with him. He treats her like gold and showers her with expensive presents (designer bags, jewelry, trips abroad). His family seems great! Wealthy but tight knit. They seem to adore her and have embraced her into their family. He also seems to be head over heels for her based on what I see. He is handsome, rich and very sweet and smitten.
Looking at them, I find myself thinking...is this real life? haha. Here's this girl who never gave any of the guys a shot until she found her prince.
Op you sound like the loser for posting this. Both friends sound like they have issues. She finally gave the guy a chance because he has money. She didn't date because most men don't want to marry a nanny. It sucks but it's true.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:47
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Men marry the woman they can imagine as a mom, wife and a woman they can bring home to their parents.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:46
Subject: Re:Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Anonymous wrote:This is OP.
Interesting responses. Friend A is very attractive and openly suggestive. She also seems to pick the weird guys. Her ex was a jobless loser who lied to her and mooched off her for years. She is drawn to flawed people maybe because she thinks she can't do better? It isn't true. Good guys have also been attracted to her but she always ruins those relationships.
Friend B was always "prudish" and boring in high school and college. She was always conventionally attractive, stunning when she gets dressed up. Guys have always been attracted to her but avoid approaching her because something about her vibe tells them she is "too good" for them based on what they have told me. She has turned down SOOO many nice guys who would have been great boyfriends. She always told me she needs to find someone who is worth it and I always thought her expectations were too high and unreasonable.
Well...since last year I'm left eating my words. Despite having 0 romantic experience, the guy she finally said yes to seems to be quite a catch. He seems crazy about her, for one. He asked her out for a year until she finally said yes to going out with him. He treats her like gold and showers her with expensive presents (designer bags, jewelry, trips abroad). His family seems great! Wealthy but tight knit. They seem to adore her and have embraced her into their family. He also seems to be head over heels for her based on what I see. He is handsome, rich and very sweet and smitten.
Looking at them, I find myself thinking...is this real life? haha. Here's this girl who never gave any of the guys a shot until she found her prince.
It's called self worth. She has a good sense of who she is, what she wants, and what she's worth in a relationship. She was in no hurry to settle and didn't see a need to.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:44
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
i remember a post like this from a while ago. I call troll
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:40
Subject: Re:Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
I married girl A. Sex up front, partier, extrovert. It's not that guys don't consider her marriage material. It's the guys she picks; they don't take any girl seriously.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:26
Subject: Re:Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
This is OP.
Interesting responses. Friend A is very attractive and openly suggestive. She also seems to pick the weird guys. Her ex was a jobless loser who lied to her and mooched off her for years. She is drawn to flawed people maybe because she thinks she can't do better? It isn't true. Good guys have also been attracted to her but she always ruins those relationships.
Friend B was always "prudish" and boring in high school and college. She was always conventionally attractive, stunning when she gets dressed up. Guys have always been attracted to her but avoid approaching her because something about her vibe tells them she is "too good" for them based on what they have told me. She has turned down SOOO many nice guys who would have been great boyfriends. She always told me she needs to find someone who is worth it and I always thought her expectations were too high and unreasonable.
Well...since last year I'm left eating my words. Despite having 0 romantic experience, the guy she finally said yes to seems to be quite a catch. He seems crazy about her, for one. He asked her out for a year until she finally said yes to going out with him. He treats her like gold and showers her with expensive presents (designer bags, jewelry, trips abroad). His family seems great! Wealthy but tight knit. They seem to adore her and have embraced her into their family. He also seems to be head over heels for her based on what I see. He is handsome, rich and very sweet and smitten.
Looking at them, I find myself thinking...is this real life? haha. Here's this girl who never gave any of the guys a shot until she found her prince.
Interesting responses. Friend A is very attractive and openly suggestive. She also seems to pick the weird guys. Her ex was a jobless loser who lied to her and mooched off her for years. She is drawn to flawed people maybe because she thinks she can't do better? It isn't true. Good guys have also been attracted to her but she always ruins those relationships.
Friend B was always "prudish" and boring in high school and college. She was always conventionally attractive, stunning when she gets dressed up. Guys have always been attracted to her but avoid approaching her because something about her vibe tells them she is "too good" for them based on what they have told me. She has turned down SOOO many nice guys who would have been great boyfriends. She always told me she needs to find someone who is worth it and I always thought her expectations were too high and unreasonable.
Well...since last year I'm left eating my words. Despite having 0 romantic experience, the guy she finally said yes to seems to be quite a catch. He seems crazy about her, for one. He asked her out for a year until she finally said yes to going out with him. He treats her like gold and showers her with expensive presents (designer bags, jewelry, trips abroad). His family seems great! Wealthy but tight knit. They seem to adore her and have embraced her into their family. He also seems to be head over heels for her based on what I see. He is handsome, rich and very sweet and smitten.
Looking at them, I find myself thinking...is this real life? haha. Here's this girl who never gave any of the guys a shot until she found her prince.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:19
Subject: Re:Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Friend A sounds like she has issues based on your description of her and her past boyfriend. And having one night stands with "good guys" is generally not going to get her where she wants to be - which is in a relationship with one of them. Many guys have an ability to spot a woman with issues from a mile away. They may still sleep with her, but that's as far as it will go.
I have a friend who attracts awful guys time and again. In the 20 years I've known her, she has never once had a boyfriend that treated her well. She makes awful decisions in relationships (having a child with a mentally unstable, prescription drug-addicted guy). When she does find a seemingly good guy, she sleeps with them right away, then gets obsessed with him to the point where any interest they may have had in her disappears. Then she wonders why they ghost her. Such low self-esteem.
I have a friend who attracts awful guys time and again. In the 20 years I've known her, she has never once had a boyfriend that treated her well. She makes awful decisions in relationships (having a child with a mentally unstable, prescription drug-addicted guy). When she does find a seemingly good guy, she sleeps with them right away, then gets obsessed with him to the point where any interest they may have had in her disappears. Then she wonders why they ghost her. Such low self-esteem.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:13
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
all of what 11:04, 11:07, 11:08 and 11:08 said is spot on
(and I'm a guy)
(and I'm a guy)
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:08
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
It sounds like Friend A was sold a lie hook, line, and sinker about how dating and relationships work, while someone close to Friend B told her the truth about what would really make her happy.
It's not going to get any easier for Friend A.
It's not going to get any easier for Friend A.
mshakespeare
12/06/2016 11:08
Subject: Re:Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
I agree with the above poster. There is a big difference between the girl you sleep with and the girl you want to be with. Girl A sounds like the girl that you sleep with, while girl B sounds like the wholesome girl you spend your life with. Although, this is going off of your descriptions.
Revealing clothes, likes to party... you get what you ask for.
Revealing clothes, likes to party... you get what you ask for.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:07
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Anonymous wrote:I have two friends.
Friend A is moderately attractive UMC girl with a curvy physique, loud and crude sense of humor, loves to party and wear revealing clothes. She gets tons of one night stands but never seems to be able to keep a good guy. She isn't a bad girlfriend; her past boyfriend was a sociopath who lied and emotionally abused her. The good "normal" guys she wants only sleep with her and then dump her. She is so sad being single.
Friend B is a very attractive brunette with a good sense of humor and sweet smile. She is a nanny and works in sales. She parties occasionally, hangs out with her parents a lot and dresses very preppy. She never had a boyfriend through high school and college because she always thought all the guys who hit on her were "gross." She would get a lot of attention but never reciprocate. Last year, she met this really great guy and they've been inseparable since. It's only been a year and they're already talking marriage.
What is going on here. Why is one friend so desirable and the other keeps getting dumped?
Is this the type of girl you want to introduce to your friends and family? Is this how you want the mother of your children to behave?
Anonymous
12/06/2016 11:04
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
Friend B sounds more like marriage material, to be honest. I'm a woman so I can't really speak for men, but friend A sounds like the "good time gal" that guys don't really take seriously. Women who act the way she does often seem to have baggage and issues.
Anonymous
12/06/2016 10:43
Subject: Why do some people have an easy time dating while others do not?
I have two friends.
Friend A is moderately attractive UMC girl with a curvy physique, loud and crude sense of humor, loves to party and wear revealing clothes. She gets tons of one night stands but never seems to be able to keep a good guy. She isn't a bad girlfriend; her past boyfriend was a sociopath who lied and emotionally abused her. The good "normal" guys she wants only sleep with her and then dump her. She is so sad being single.
Friend B is a very attractive brunette with a good sense of humor and sweet smile. She is a nanny and works in sales. She parties occasionally, hangs out with her parents a lot and dresses very preppy. She never had a boyfriend through high school and college because she always thought all the guys who hit on her were "gross." She would get a lot of attention but never reciprocate. Last year, she met this really great guy and they've been inseparable since. It's only been a year and they're already talking marriage.
What is going on here. Why is one friend so desirable and the other keeps getting dumped?
Friend A is moderately attractive UMC girl with a curvy physique, loud and crude sense of humor, loves to party and wear revealing clothes. She gets tons of one night stands but never seems to be able to keep a good guy. She isn't a bad girlfriend; her past boyfriend was a sociopath who lied and emotionally abused her. The good "normal" guys she wants only sleep with her and then dump her. She is so sad being single.
Friend B is a very attractive brunette with a good sense of humor and sweet smile. She is a nanny and works in sales. She parties occasionally, hangs out with her parents a lot and dresses very preppy. She never had a boyfriend through high school and college because she always thought all the guys who hit on her were "gross." She would get a lot of attention but never reciprocate. Last year, she met this really great guy and they've been inseparable since. It's only been a year and they're already talking marriage.
What is going on here. Why is one friend so desirable and the other keeps getting dumped?