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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

If you behaved like that to me, I'd change the locks on you. I don't tolerate that kind of immaturity.

Good thing we aren't married then

I've found that men need a huge wakeup call to change. Simply talking about it or asking nicely never works. Hopefully you're one of the good ones who listens to their DW!

You sound like a real peach.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

If you behaved like that to me, I'd change the locks on you. I don't tolerate that kind of immaturity.

Good thing we aren't married then

I've found that men need a huge wakeup call to change. Simply talking about it or asking nicely never works. Hopefully you're one of the good ones who listens to their DW!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

To be fair, it doesn't actually sound like he was being disrespectful. He was confiding in someone he trusts. Of course he should talk to OP, work through any problems, get counseling, whatever, but it's not disrespectful. The man has feelings that he doesn't really know how to work through. That's called being human.

Online stalking an ex and whining about how she moved on without him is pretty disrespectful.

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

If you behaved like that to me, I'd change the locks on you. I don't tolerate that kind of immaturity.

Troll. Guys don't talk to their sisters like that.

I would consider the fact that he is confiding in his sister a good thing and give him credit for trying to work this out on his own. You really don't/can't know the context of what you overheard. If things are otherwise ok let him have a little space.

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

To be fair, it doesn't actually sound like he was being disrespectful. He was confiding in someone he trusts. Of course he should talk to OP, work through any problems, get counseling, whatever, but it's not disrespectful. The man has feelings that he doesn't really know how to work through. That's called being human.

Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

I would ask him what he meant when he said those things. You are in for a very long haul if you cannot communicate clearly and quickly with your husband. You will hold years of resentment if you hold everything inside. Ask him about this.

I also fully agree that things didn't work out with them for a reason and he chose you to marry. But marriage and kids do make some husbands really really miss their single fun days. Again, I would ask him and then if he admits his true feelings, I would pack my shit. There is no reason to stay if he wants to be somewhere else.

Good luck.

So sorry to hear this OP.

I would also be devastated & heartbroken to hear his genuine feelings about her.

It sounds as if he has some lingering feelings for her.
No wife would be happy knowing her husband was looking up an ex online.

You need to have a talk w/your husband + figure out what his statement means for your marriage now.

Good luck.

So sorry, OP. I'd be devastated to hear that. And really, really pissed.

This probably isn't the best advice, but I'm kind of a bitch- I'd pack my things up and leave for a few days so he can see what life is like without the things he does have. I've had to do that twice in my marriage (once with a baby) because I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect.

Anonymous wrote:oh my gosh, I am so sorry OP. *big hugs*

I think that if I were in your position, I would not be able to stop myself from talking to him.

Bring it up without an accusatory note in your voice though; after all, he didn't intend to hurt you or even show intentions of being unfaithful.

Just say, hey I accidentally overheard what you said to your sister about your ex. I was a bit surprised and concerned, so I wanted to ask if you had anything on your mind. You can share it with me, I won't be angry.

I agree. That sounds like such a hard thing to overhear.

I would let him know it is OK if he doesn't want to talk about it or if he wants to think about things more and you two can talk about it later so he doesn't feel put on the spot.

oh my gosh, I am so sorry OP. *big hugs*

I think that if I were in your position, I would not be able to stop myself from talking to him.

Bring it up without an accusatory note in your voice though; after all, he didn't intend to hurt you or even show intentions of being unfaithful.

Just say, hey I accidentally overheard what you said to your sister about your ex. I was a bit surprised and concerned, so I wanted to ask if you had anything on your mind. You can share it with me, I won't be angry.

OP, I'm so sorry. I would have to talk to him if it were me. But you have to know that they broke up for a reason. And he married you for a reason. Has his behavior off lately?

*him. I don't know what to do.

Over Thanksgiving I overheard a conversation DH was having with his sister in which he said, "I can't stop looking her up. I'm so jealous all the time. I don't know if I'm jealous about what she has that I don't or if I'm jealous she has those things without me." His sister just asked what he wanted to do about it and I didn't hear his reply. I don't know what he is jealous of or what I am supposed to do now knowing he feels this way. I don't like where he said he didn't know if he was jealous she has things without him. We just had a baby recently. I'm heartbroken. I don't feel like I can even talk about this with hin.