NP here.


Yeah, you should watch him but she should also chill the hell out. It's water, not juice or pasta. Water. As long as you are trying your best to be a gracious guest, she can also attempt to be a gracious host. The whole whispering and making a big to do to tell you that, is honestly obnoxious.

Anonymous wrote:I think you should clean up after your son better. I'd have said "Oh I'm so sorry, absolutely! Do you want me to try magic eraser or something else?"

It's their new house, I'd have just cleaned it up. I'm always careful to make sure my kids messes are cleaned when I'm in someone else's house.

Anonymous wrote:Her house, her rules

Her NEW house at that.

Op you need to be on your A game as a guest, but even more so with a toddler in a new house.

If your kid is getting food or liquids on the wall behind his chair, then yeah, you need to watch him better while he's eating.

stay at a hotel next time...that's what I'd do. I'd also head home in the morning or sooner if that's possible.

Where were you and DC at the time? Was DC in the high chair or near the stains? Were you with your DC, or was DC in a high chair unattended?

Her house, her rules

I think you should clean up after your child better why you are in their house.

I think you should also teach your 22 month old not to fling food.

She sounds a bit ocd. Do they have kids yet? If not, they'll learn. Don't let it get to you.

She over-reacted, but my husband, after years with his own two kiddos, one neat and one super-messy, would have reacted the same way. Some people are just very controlling, and it's quite annoying!

However, you are in her house, so you need to be courteous and watch him carefully.

You might not be lazy but your child is making a mess. She's trying to get you to clean up after him. When you're staying with them, you have to conform to their levels of clean.

I think you should clean up after your son better. I'd have said "Oh I'm so sorry, absolutely! Do you want me to try magic eraser or something else?"

I don't think you should take this personally. It's a new house and she wants to keep it looking nice.

Anonymous wrote:SIL was vacuuming and stopped, and literally summoned my brother over. She said, "Larlo, come". They spoke in hushed tones, and then she called me over and said "can you watch DS better when he eats? He put stains on the wall". Behind my 22 mo child's chair, there were some clear vertical drip marks, maybe water stains. I asked what she thought they were. She said she didn't know. DS doesn't drink anything but water, so maybe they were. They just bought this house and so are obviously very protective. My feelings are hurt though bc DH isn't here and I'm really working my butt off to take care of DH and help her keep the house together ( example- after she went to bed, I did all the cleanup after Thanksgiving). Anyway, I'm doing my best. I'm not a lazy person. My bro thinks she didn't mean anything. I think she's implying I'm not looking after DS enough. Thoughts?

I think you're right, and you should watch him better.

I think I'd pack up and head home.

SIL was vacuuming and stopped, and literally summoned my brother over. She said, "Larlo, come". They spoke in hushed tones, and then she called me over and said "can you watch DS better when he eats? He put stains on the wall". Behind my 22 mo child's chair, there were some clear vertical drip marks, maybe water stains. I asked what she thought they were. She said she didn't know. DS doesn't drink anything but water, so maybe they were. They just bought this house and so are obviously very protective. My feelings are hurt though bc DH isn't here and I'm really working my butt off to take care of DH and help her keep the house together ( example- after she went to bed, I did all the cleanup after Thanksgiving). Anyway, I'm doing my best. I'm not a lazy person. My bro thinks she didn't mean anything. I think she's implying I'm not looking after DS enough. Thoughts?