i have twins plus a third, 3.5 years younger.
One twins and the younger sibling are best friends. You can't predict what will happen.

I only have 1 kid but I have a lot of siblings. We are stair step kids. One year after another. I have 6 siblings! Four boys in a role, two girls at the end. And 1 odd one that is 9 years younger. It isn't so much the age but the personality differences.
That was the old days.

I have three boys, 12, 11, and 8. The first two are 13 months apart, yet the oldest and youngest are best friends. My middle kid is usually "odd man out."

LOL at three boys being a nightmare--it's great! We decided to stop at 3, but if I had had a guarantee that a 4th would be another boy, we might have gone for it.

My older ones (boy/girl) are 15 months apart. Our baby is 4 years younger than the middle one. It's all good! Everybody loves each other and no one feels left out.

Anonymous wrote:My kids will be 5 and 7 when third is born. That is a fairly large gap but not so strange.

I also thought you were going to have a 10 year gap or something. Your gap is very common. Most people we know who have 3 kids have the oldest in k, one in preschool and then a baby so you are right there.

I have a lot of friends with this age gap. most swore they were done the got baby fever again when their youngest was about to go to K. it's really common.

Chances are strongly that your third would be a boy. Three boys is a total nightmare. Fighting constantly like dogs. The youngest usually baring the brunt of it.

DH is the middle where the older two are 2 years apart and the youngest is 4 years behind. Not an issue. I agree, I thought you meant 10 years, not 3. I think you are just mourning the idea that family planning isn't going exactly according to plan, which is fair although it's still quite early for that too. There is no other issue here whatsoever.

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Anonymous wrote:The older two will be close. The younger one will be odd man out. I wouldn't do it.

That's a big assumption without knowing any of their personalities or anything else about their family at all.

My 4 are really close (2 or less between each) and there's always an odd man out. Age doesn't have anything to do with it. Sex, interests and personality are much bigger factors.

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I am really close with a sibling who is 8 years younger than me. Our relationship definitely grew as we both became older (i.e. Adults), but we were close even when I was in high school and college. Totally depends on the kids and their personalities.

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Anonymous wrote:The older two will be close. The younger one will be odd man out. I wouldn't do it.

That's a big assumption without knowing any of their personalities or anything else about their family at all.

My 4 are really close (2 or less between each) and there's always an odd man out. Age doesn't have anything to do with it. Sex, interests and personality are much bigger factors.

The older two are boys.

Anonymous wrote:The older two will be close. The younger one will be odd man out. I wouldn't do it.

That's a big assumption without knowing any of their personalities or anything else about their family at all.

My 4 are really close (2 or less between each) and there's always an odd man out. Age doesn't have anything to do with it. Sex, interests and personality are much bigger factors.

The older two will be close. The younger one will be odd man out. I wouldn't do it.

3.5 years is normal spacing for most, not some sort of outlier.

My kids will be 5 and 7 when third is born. That is a fairly large gap but not so strange.

I also thought you were going to have a 10 year gap or something. Your gap is very common. Most people we know who have 3 kids have the oldest in k, one in preschool and then a baby so you are right there.

You're crazy. This is a fairly common age difference between siblings. Your kids will be fine.

From your title I thought you were doing to ask about having a third when your older kids were 12 and 14 or something like that.

I've got 2 kids who are 18 months apart - 2 boys. I really want a third, but it is taking a lot longer than I thought it would. At this point, would I do conceive today, the baby would be born when its brothers would be 3.5 and 5. If you now have older kids with this type of spacing, do you like it? Is the baby included in the older kids' relationship (now that that baby isn't a baby any longer)? Was it too hard to go back to the baby stage after having older (ish) kids? Would you do it again?