You might want to check with another lawyer, just to confirm. If you have children together, at least be glad that he will have the assets to pay for college and things. You might suggest it in writing, actually...

I know it doesn't match the initials, but I have always read that as "Son of a B**** ex"

in the 4-5 years I've been on various message boards I Never thought to ask.

If he's feeling guilty and is being more generous than he is legally required to be, then TAKE IT. Soon enough he will get impatient and/or instead of feeling guilty will want to redirect that guilt outward into anger and will withdraw a generous offer.

Push him for as much as you think you can get, and then take it.

1. If it was held separately then the money is his. It is not marital assets.
2. HE IS BEING GENEROUS TO YOU! He doesn't owe you the house.
3. This is another example of a DH being a great guy. You on the other had are beings a.....

Anonymous wrote:What's a STBX?

soon to be ex

Anonymous wrote:What's a STBX?

Soon to be ex

Why are you not listening to your lawyer?

He owes you nothing of his inheritance. He IS being generous.

He sounds like a class act, making sure you're mortgage free.

I guess it was for long-term security...for him.

What's a STBX?

Anonymous wrote:We have been married for 18 years, but I decided I had enough of it.

Everything was going fine until it came to the inheritance. He inherited 60K from his Aunt in 2004, and invested it (in AAPL). He sold it a few years ago and made a huge profit. He says since the money has never been joint, it is treated as his alone.

The amount earned on it was about 4 million, so it is real money.

He is saying I am entitled to 1/2 his 401k, and half the marital assets. However, he agreed to give me the house and pay of the mortgage. That tells me he is trying to buy me off, because he does not want to loose half the 4 million. My lawyer says he is being generous.

FWIW, I wanted to use his inheritance to fix up the kitchen, but he said no -- he said it is for long term security.

He is. He could have made you give him a quarter - half of what the house is worth especially if equity is involved and he made payments on it. Your husband sounds like a smart man - not using the inheritance to fix up the house. The money is his by right, not yours.

Inheritance isn't marital property. Sorry, OP.

Anonymous wrote:He is right. It is his. Sounds like he was pretty deliberate and smart about knowing this and never used the money jointly. It's not yours and frankly I think it's selfish of people to believe that HIS inheritance from
HIS family belongs to you.

Yep. Sorry, lady.

If he kept it in a separate account, without your name on it, which it sounds like he was smart enough to do, he played you like a fiddle.

He is right. It is his. Sounds like he was pretty deliberate and smart about knowing this and never used the money jointly. It's not yours and frankly I think it's selfish of people to believe that HIS inheritance from
HIS family belongs to you.

If your name wasn't on any account where the money has been invested, he's right.

If he put the inheritance in a separate account and never mingled it with household accounts, yes, it is completely his and he does not have to give any of it to you.

We have been married for 18 years, but I decided I had enough of it.

Everything was going fine until it came to the inheritance. He inherited 60K from his Aunt in 2004, and invested it (in AAPL). He sold it a few years ago and made a huge profit. He says since the money has never been joint, it is treated as his alone.

The amount earned on it was about 4 million, so it is real money.

He is saying I am entitled to 1/2 his 401k, and half the marital assets. However, he agreed to give me the house and pay of the mortgage. That tells me he is trying to buy me off, because he does not want to loose half the 4 million. My lawyer says he is being generous.

FWIW, I wanted to use his inheritance to fix up the kitchen, but he said no -- he said it is for long term security.