Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 18:02     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your wife should stop writing about the team at all. It's not HER team. SHE isn't on it. She should write about her OWN accomplishments and not live through her child.


What would SAHMs do all day if they couldn't brag about their kids (and yoga schedules) on social media?


I guess we could spend time on DCUM listening to women who talk about empowerment tear down women who have made the best choice for their family.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 17:57     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's highly embarrassing, to me. Private school, I think he only made the team because the coach was being nice aka charity case. My wife won't stop facebooking every game as if our boy has anything to do with their success.

As potentially the only male to respond to this post. The answer is yes, your wife should not be doing this. Your kid knows that they didn't play and that there is nothing to be proud of. The only two possible outcomes are 1) it embarasses the kdis, or 2) the kid slowly learns to believe that he is actually accomplishing something. Neither are good.

Sounds like just making the team is a good enough accomplishment. But after congratulating the kid for that, there no need to pretend it is anything more than that.


Female here and I have to agree.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 17:20     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:It's highly embarrassing, to me. Private school, I think he only made the team because the coach was being nice aka charity case. My wife won't stop facebooking every game as if our boy has anything to do with their success.

As potentially the only male to respond to this post. The answer is yes, your wife should not be doing this. Your kid knows that they didn't play and that there is nothing to be proud of. The only two possible outcomes are 1) it embarasses the kdis, or 2) the kid slowly learns to believe that he is actually accomplishing something. Neither are good.

Sounds like just making the team is a good enough accomplishment. But after congratulating the kid for that, there no need to pretend it is anything more than that.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 17:19     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your wife should stop writing about the team at all. It's not HER team. SHE isn't on it. She should write about her OWN accomplishments and not live through her child.


What would SAHMs do all day if they couldn't brag about their kids (and yoga schedules) on social media?


I don't know! It's crazy, right? Because I NEVER see a mom with a job brag about their kids. Thank God some of us have an actual life outside of our kids.

/s


I work and most of my mom friends work. We facebook brag about our kids all the time. My DH jokes that it's fakebook
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 17:18     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:I'm just being frank. He's more or less a cheerleader. It's emasculating.


Mascot maybe?
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 17:15     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:I'm just being frank. He's more or less a cheerleader. It's emasculating.


It is not emasculating, except to men who aren't secure in their masculinity.

It is learning the value of being part of a team, of practicing and improving and working his way up the roster, of supporting his teammates, of feeling that he is part of something important even if it isn't all about him. Those are all great lifelong values.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:52     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your wife should stop writing about the team at all. It's not HER team. SHE isn't on it. She should write about her OWN accomplishments and not live through her child.


What would SAHMs do all day if they couldn't brag about their kids (and yoga schedules) on social media?


I don't know! It's crazy, right? Because I NEVER see a mom with a job brag about their kids. Thank God some of us have an actual life outside of our kids.

/s
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:38     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Anonymous wrote:Your wife should stop writing about the team at all. It's not HER team. SHE isn't on it. She should write about her OWN accomplishments and not live through her child.


What would SAHMs do all day if they couldn't brag about their kids (and yoga schedules) on social media?
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:37     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
I'm just being frank. He's more or less a cheerleader. It's emasculating.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:36     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Your wife should stop writing about the team at all. It's not HER team. SHE isn't on it. She should write about her OWN accomplishments and not live through her child.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:27     Subject: Re:If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Thank you for one more reminder of why I don't do any "facebooking."


Having said that, one of my kids rides the bench, but hey, he's on the varsity team, works hard, and is a great team player. I couldn't be prouder!

Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:25     Subject: Re:If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
Not sure, but I do know that I find it annoying to see FB updates of every game of anything. Championships or some factor that made it particularly interesting - yes. Every game - too much.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:25     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
You are gross OP
Please try not to let your kid see how disappointed you are that he isn't someone ekse
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:24     Subject: Re:If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
He is on the team, isn't he? I see nothing wrong with being proud of your team.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2016 14:23     Subject: If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?
It's highly embarrassing, to me. Private school, I think he only made the team because the coach was being nice aka charity case. My wife won't stop facebooking every game as if our boy has anything to do with their success.