Anonymous wrote:This can't be at Beverly Farms where my DD goes. What school OP? I'm sure its a non-W school from the sound of it.

Even schools with rich kids have some bad teachers.

Third grade teacher was highly regarded in the school system because kids consistently scored some of the highest SOL numbers in the state. I saw with my own eyes, heard with my own ears, as she made an example out of a kid when he didn't quite get a division problem the day she introduced division in the class. Later another mom told me this was a special needs kid. She knew because she tutored him (she was a SAHM, former school teacher). Anyway, teacher humiliated this poor kid in front of the whole class, and she made the class laugh at him with a condescending snarky comment. She deliberately called on him, knowing he wouldn't have been able to process the division material. t couldn't believe what I had just heard. Incidentally, this kid was lily white. Nothing to do with race, everything to do with being a convenient target for a bitch of a teacher who was desperate to motivate kids to learn every way she could. By the way, I did lodge a complaint against this teacher. It was ignored, and as far as I know teacher is still in the same school all these years later, probably nearing the time when she can be eligible for a pension.

Anonymous wrote:I witnessed on several occasions a teacher yelling like a maniac at kids in her class. Two of them were sobbing and I saw her throw a kid out of her room in a very humiliating manner. I'm so disturbed by how she treats the students. They seem scared. I'm scared. What would you do? I know she's popular with the adults. You know charming but clearly fake. I'm afraid if I say something I won't be welcomed back in the school because I think she's that manipulative.

Didn't happen.

My DC is in a W ES and lately the teachers plus the office admin have been picking up onmy DC a lot saying that these kids are almost ready for transition to MS so need to learn discipline. When I started to write back my DC s version of incidents on each of the comments that was sent home the teacher started yelling and picking up on my child more aggressively and then one day there was a calm and better comments. What changed, no clue except my DC became so quiet and fearful of this teacher . I saw tears in the eyes while discussing the day events. Just last week the higher ups in the admin created incidents involving DCs name with other kids in his class and were caught in their own made up incidents. I am not making this up and let me tell you both my DCs one in ES and one in HS are well behaved and academically super smart kids who have won awards and homors for good character and behavior. We are the minority in a prominently white school. Before everyone jumps with nasty comments, I don't want to think it is anything related to race but we all know about the existing bias and can not deny it.

W schools have these teachers, too. Mention that your child is having physical symptoms. Tell the administration that you are really worried about school anxiety, which can be very serious and turn into school refusal. That is something the administration should take very seriously.

OP, I am right there with you. My child in a lower ES grade has an extremely mean and frazzled teacher. She puts her hands on the kids. Grabs their arms to pull them places, firmly repositions their heads to the front of the class while she still is teaching, grabs things from hands, loses her patience, and always raises her voice. I saw it at open house and when I volunteered a few times. I am anxious in her class when I volunteer myself. She rambles directions quickly and then gets super annoyed if someone starts doing something wrong because they don't understand. The kids are scared to ask questions.

It is a major problem but the difference between you and I, is that there are multiple parents starting to mumble between one another. I am nervous about what to do next because I have always been very involved with the school and I have always been a huge advocate of standing behind teachers and working together with them. I don't want to come off as a whiny parent. But my child has begged not to go to schools, makes up stomach aches, has been having increased anxiety, and it is not good. This is a kid that used to love every aspect of school. And this teacher has been there awhile and others have told me this is what she is like. So how can complaining accomplish anything but making me look bad?

op, are you a teacher trying to get a teacher in trouble?
This happened in our school. One teacher started mass emailing that a little girl in her class did not want to go to PE because she was terrified of the PE teacher. Supposedly the child missed school the day she had PE and even if she was not absent, she would go to the bathroom and force herself to throw up. The PE teacher first heard of all this when the classroom teacher sent an email to everyone in the school. After months of investigating the "problem" the child admitted that the only thing she was "afraid" of was being paired-up with a boy in PE.

This can't be at Beverly Farms where my DD goes. What school OP? I'm sure its a non-W school from the sound of it.

What grade? Go to admin. I'm an elementary teacher and have witnessed a para who routinely screams at kids. Everyone seems to ignore or brush it off as "yeah, she's mean." Finally I went to admin and expressed my concern as a teacher and a parent. They took it seriously, and I don't think they had ever been informed about it before.

If the teacher is literally screaming and making children sob, admin needs to know that as a parent, you are concerned.

I think you have a responsibility to go to admin.

I have no idea why people take the time to post nasty unhelpful comments. They are the ones who are bored and should mind their own business. Sheesh.

OP, I believe you. Parents have seen over the top behavior at our elementary school, too. Rather than go to the teacher directly (children often BEG their parents not to do that because they report the teachers retaliate and call them out on it in front of all their classmates), it seems to work a little better going to the administration with concrete examples. If you don't think that will be helpful, you can approach your PTA officers and they might be able to help.

Parents, students, faculty and administration all know who the screamers are. They may seem "popular," but I have found that it's because they are super nice to their favorite students, who just ignore the yelling because it doesnt apply to them. It just takes a few parents to question why on earth that kind of behavior is necessary. It is horrible to model that in front of students, especially when the party line is that children should treat each other with respect and kindness.

The one other thing I would mention is if the teacher is inexperienced, she could be under a lot of stress, which might be adding to the problem.
Like the snarky parents who post mean comments, the teacher needs to learn to self-regulate.

Are you bored OP?

Drama queen

Myob

You exaggerate

I witnessed on several occasions a teacher yelling like a maniac at kids in her class. Two of them were sobbing and I saw her throw a kid out of her room in a very humiliating manner. I'm so disturbed by how she treats the students. They seem scared. I'm scared. What would you do? I know she's popular with the adults. You know charming but clearly fake. I'm afraid if I say something I won't be welcomed back in the school because I think she's that manipulative.