It depends. At my former inlaws I loved to clean up just to avoid that awful family. I was happy to be alone washing dishes.

I am happy to help but I don't like others in my kitchen. Its individual. I've always cleaned up at my parents. Mix at friend's homes.

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Anonymous wrote:We have our cleaning person come and help with dishes. It is a totally luxury I know but so worth it. The family enjoys the whole evening together. Kitchen is spotless and leftovers are all organized.

Isn't it difficult to get someone during the holidays? Do they eat with you?

We often celebrate on non-traditional days due to travel and other family commitments..Thanksgiving is almost always on Friday ie. Our helper is also from another country so her family traditions are different than ours.

I don't think guests should ever help do dishes!
They sometimes offer but I always refuse. Ive had guests insist! And they take over the kitchen and whoosh me away! In that case I relax and have wine.

Anonymous wrote:We have our cleaning person come and help with dishes. It is a totally luxury I know but so worth it. The family enjoys the whole evening together. Kitchen is spotless and leftovers are all organized.

Isn't it difficult to get someone during the holidays? Do they eat with you?

We have our cleaning person come and help with dishes. It is a totally luxury I know but so worth it. The family enjoys the whole evening together. Kitchen is spotless and leftovers are all organized.

In my house you dirty it you clean it. The side stuff I'll do.

Just don't volunteer. Problem solved. Not every menial problem requires a thread. idiots.

As a visitor I really want to help with the dishes. Small way to show appreciation and be useful. No matter what culture, put me to work!

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Anonymous wrote:In my culture (Persian) guests don't lift a finger.

But with your scenario, if you don't want to wash dishes, though, the answer is easy - stop volunteering. It's really that simple.

OP and Persian here. Just checking if it is cultural or manners or something else.

Persian PP here. Beheshoon begoo keh goh mikhoran hamisheh zarfha ra behetoon meedan.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my culture (Persian) guests don't lift a finger.

But with your scenario, if you don't want to wash dishes, though, the answer is easy - stop volunteering. It's really that simple.

OP and Persian here. Just checking if it is cultural or manners or something else.

Persian PP here. Beheshoon begoo keh goh mikhoran hamisheh zarfha ra behetoon meedan.

I grew up in PA with depression era parents. Guests never lifted a finger. They never brought anything or helped in any way.

Anonymous wrote:In my culture (Persian) guests don't lift a finger.

But with your scenario, if you don't want to wash dishes, though, the answer is easy - stop volunteering. It's really that simple.

OP and Persian here. Just checking if it is cultural or manners or something else.

In my culture (Persian) guests don't lift a finger.

But with your scenario, if you don't want to wash dishes, though, the answer is easy - stop volunteering. It's really that simple.

We rotate every holiday. My culture says guests never do dishes while visiting. When not at our house, me and girlfriend are seen as the go to, and we do dishes each time. This has been going on for quite a few years. Should we just not volunteer next time?