Op here: His birthday wasn't even today! He received a happy birthday message yesterday in his email and I assumed it was his birthday. We have a 2 month old and let's just say I haven't been sleeping well! He was laughing so hard when he came home to a birthday cake lit up with 34 candlesticks and a few of our neighbors hahaha dh days all he wants for hide birthday is to buy me some sexy lingerie!

This thread was so much better before all the sex talk was axed

Eh, it's probably not a big deal. He's an adult, not a kid turning 10.

I wouldn't worry about it unless your DH pulls some passive aggressive bullshit about missing it. And then, I would only worry that you had married a toddler.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds more like something a husband would do than a wife

Maybe it is a gay couple and OP is a man.

Sounds more like something a husband would do than a wife

It is fine. If he was all about celebrating birthdays it would be one thing, but you said he does not really care. Offer to do something on the weekend to celebrate. But it is OK. Most adults do not make big deals about thier birthdays, and if they do, they make sure thier spouse knows it us coming up.

How? Seriously. How do you forget your DH's birthday? I just don't get it.

Oh no! Apologize and do something nice for him. Surprise him, since he's not going to expect a celebration now.

a solid week of mind-blowing sex. he doesn't like BJs, ok, then give him everything else that he does like, act out fantasies, dress up, role play, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Apologize profusely, do better next year.

"Do better next year"? Really??
Worst. Advice. Ever.
Do something NOW, not a year from now.

Set a reminder on your phone/calendar so that you don't forget his birthday next year.

Anonymous wrote:Apologize profusely, do better next year.

But also do better tomorrow -- nice dinner, cake, help your kid make a card.

Apologize profusely, do better next year.

Wow! You owe him!

I feel so bad. He's from a culture where birthdays are not really celebrated but I still feel bad. He doesn't make a big deal about his birthday at all. I always remind him when my birthday is coming up and make plans for whatever I want to do. What could I do today to make up for it?