Anonymous wrote:Mom isn't your friend. If your daughter likes the two other girls, I'd invite them for a sleep over and make it really fun and go over the top making a big fuss.

This is a great idea. Even if you can't do a sleep over invite them over for pizza and a movie.

Mom isn't your friend. If your daughter likes the two other girls, I'd invite them for a sleep over and make it really fun and go over the top making a big fuss.

What would I DO? Or what would I THINK?

I'd think it was normal developmentally, albeit hurtful to those excluded.

What would I do? I'd prepare my DD accordingly, maybe make sure she has something fun planned that date.

I don't think it rude or nasty, it's pretty normal for third graders to choose to invite their friends -- not everyone -- to their parties. If you're daughter had been the only one, you would have a point.

Just make sure she has a fun day with a special friend.

Anonymous wrote:Poor form on behalf of the parents to exclude just a handful of kids. There's no excuse for this. They should have only invited half or less of the class, not almost all. It's just very insensitive.

But yes, as others said, good opportunity for your DD to learn to deal with disappointment and move on.

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Any chance the invitation in on it's way or lost?

It really sucks to be the kid left out...BTDT at around that age, but I echo what other PPs have said...better to learn how to face disappointment and hurt feelings now because there's more in the future. Sometimes we get invited and sometimes we don't. Sometimes there's a reason for it and sometimes there isn't.

You and the mom are friendlu but is your daughter friends with this other kid or just classmates? I guess I dont get why someone should invite all the kids if they arent friends with all of the kids especially to a sleepover. the thing to teach your daughter is that she cant always go just as she cant have everything she wants. It is a good leason to learn early.

At DD's middle school, the rule was fewer than 50% of any gender in a single class, or the whole class. Very few people ignored this rule, it really was the culture of the school. Nice place.

Sorry about your DD. Can you do something fun with those three? Their own sleepover? Don't make a big deal about why, just offer to have some fun activities.

Poor form on behalf of the parents to exclude just a handful of kids. There's no excuse for this. They should have only invited half or less of the class, not almost all. It's just very insensitive.

But yes, as others said, good opportunity for your DD to learn to deal with disappointment and move on.

I think it's normal. I'm sure their DD could pick only so many. 11 guests is a lot already. Probably kept their best buds from last year's class. And then some from this year. Maybe even others you don't know about.

Yeah, its rude, but what can you possibly do about it?

By 8 they should realize that they aren't close friends with everyone.

Anonymous wrote:Yes it's rude. But life isn't fair, better teach your daughter now.

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Yes it's rude. But life isn't fair, better teach your daughter now.

It's rude, but there's nothing you can do about except find the best way to guide your daughter through the hurt. It won't be the first time she's disappointed.

10 girls in the class. My daughter was one of three not invited. Four additional girls from other classes were invited.
The mom and I are friendly. My daughter of course heard about it at school and her feelings were hurt. I think it was rude to leave out just three. What do you think?