Anonymous wrote:I am turning 30 soon and am terrified of losing my looks.

This is a serious question, because I know several women like you. Why so invested in looks? What else makes you "you?"


I'm a 49 year old who never really cared much about looks, but who's still pretty attractive. I mean, a 20 year old guy wouldn't want to date me, but I get a lot of attention from about 38 on up. Or is it that you only want 20 year old guys? Maybe that's it...

As a guy I don't think you need to worry. Note the views of Benjamin Franklin:

"Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement."

Kill yourself now. You're obviously a vain idiot that only considers looks important for your self esteem. Might as well hang it up now that you're almost 30...

Eye rolling.

Worry about your self-esteem and self-confidence. I'm a woman in my mid 30s. Still getting hit on left and right by men from different racial groups. Sometimes men are flirting with me and I don't even realize it. To be fair I do take care of myself, dress up, look good etc. So yes, men find women attractive past 30s. Do the same things you did in your 20s, that is, take care of yourself, be confident, dress nicely, be friendly and smile more often men will find you attractive.

Yes. Very. Not only have women grown into themselves physically, but their confidence and comfort with themselves soars. And that's what's really attractive.

Anonymous wrote:Hasn't this been addressed here ad nauseum? Looks fade; people in their 20's are generally considered most attractive. The theory is that humans are hardwired to find fertility attractive. As the fertile years fade, so does attractiveness. Blah blah blah.

I suppose this may have some truth to it, but a successful marriage requires more than that. Twenty year olds don't approach me now, but that's a very good thing. They're terrible in bed, IMO.

Anonymous wrote:You have so much more than your looks to worry about.

This!

When I was 20/21 I would get random 15 year olds trying to get my attention and telling me they loved me when I was just standing in line at a restaurant. Does that happen now at 31? No. Do I miss it? NO. Men will still find you attractive but they're not going to be so blatant and intrusive and annoying about it. Do you even get that 30 is not old? Take care of yourself and workout and eat healthy and don't drink too much and there's no reason you won't look good.

Anonymous wrote:Hasn't this been addressed here ad nauseum? Looks fade; people in their 20's are generally considered most attractive. The theory is that humans are hardwired to find fertility attractive. As the fertile years fade, so does attractiveness. Blah blah blah.

Well then, aren't you just a little ray of sunshine?

OP: Don't sweat it. My DW is late 40's and hot as hell. She gets hit on my 20 something's regularly. The better you take care of yourself when you're young, the better you'll look when you're older.

Hasn't this been addressed here ad nauseum? Looks fade; people in their 20's are generally considered most attractive. The theory is that humans are hardwired to find fertility attractive. As the fertile years fade, so does attractiveness. Blah blah blah.

i think this is a common worry, but as a 33yo woman, I get the same amount of attention as I did 5 years ago. And I've gained 10 lbs since then. Confidence is key, plus taking care of yourself.

LOL what a ridiculous question

I'm a 36 year old woman and my fiancé is a sexy 26 years old. So I'd say I still got it!

You have so much more than your looks to worry about.

I am turning 30 soon and am terrified of losing my looks.