OP your main job, your main mission as PTO leader is getting other parents involved. I can understand that you accepted or sought the room parent job, perhaps, without much thought. I think you should not do it. And I do not think the other candidate should have to "co-share" the duty with you.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. Only one mom was on the list to volunteer but I don't know her so I volunteered to be room parent. I feel a little guilty now.

This why people don't get involved and call the PTA a microcosm of makework mean girls. . You didn't know her, so you simply didn't allow her the chance to help?

yes, yes, yes +1000000000000

Always the question "why don't people help?". Here's why! Biatch's don't want help. They want to lead everything and have a bunch of minions. Oh, and then complain how overworked and underappreciated they are.

Thanks OP for reminding me why I don't volunteer.

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. Only one mom was on the list to volunteer but I don't know her so I volunteered to be room parent. I feel a little guilty now.

I'm 20:11, and I didn't see this before I posted. This changes my response.

If you applied up front to be room mom, and so did she, then the teacher should pick whoever she wants. But it's not your role as PTO chair to veto the person who signed up. What you did was wrong.

Back out of the room parent role.

Why would you want to do both?

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. Only one mom was on the list to volunteer but I don't know her so I volunteered to be room parent. I feel a little guilty now.

This why people don't get involved and call the PTA a microcosm of makework mean girls. . You didn't know her, so you simply didn't allow her the chance to help?

I thought this was going to be the opposite, that you volunteered for the PTO president, and then when no one volunteered for room parent it was foisted on you. I think "I've got enough to do" would be a fine reason to decline.

But if you want to be both, then I don't think that whether or not you have one job should factor into the other.

^^^ Agree that doubling up isn't a good way to foster community. It's definitely a good way to max out though!

I'm the OP. Only one mom was on the list to volunteer but I don't know her so I volunteered to be room parent. I feel a little guilty now.

Anonymous wrote:Let her be co- with you.

+1 the letter isn't like a swearing in ceremony and you already placed your hand on a bible. Just communicate your wishes to whomever made the selection.

Doubling up on volunteer positions to the exclusion of others isn't a great way to foster a strong school community.

Anonymous wrote:I am president of my local PTO and get a little shade today when I was chosen to be room parent over other moms. Would you think this is wrong?

Do both jobs but don't be a micro-managing a-hole. Every room parent (bar one) I've experienced has been a nightmare.

Meh - I don't see why you should be punished for taking on a thankless job.

Let her be co- with you.

I've already accepted. A mother who signed up before me seemed upset but the letter already went out.

Yes, it is wrong. They should share all opportunities around to all willing to volunteer before they start doubling up.

You should politely decline and direct them towards the other volunteers.

I am president of my local PTO and get a little shade today when I was chosen to be room parent over other moms. Would you think this is wrong?