The only thing I find odd is the bolded:

Anonymous wrote:Birthday is coming up and I keep asking what he would like to do with his friends. He doesn't commit to anything. The other day he said he didn't want a party. My DH said he should do something for his birthday. He is a firm believer of having a birthday party every year. I didn't really grow up with parties with friends just a family celebration. DH thinks it's strange if you don't celebrate. Anyway, is your teen son having birthday parties?

Your DH is way too invested in how other people, even his child, should celebrate a birthday.

Starting at 14, end of 8th grade, my son wanted to do something but not a party and didn't want parents involved. Gave him money on a debit card to take his friends to a movie and sushi or starbucks or something. They walked to the movies after school -- this was totally their choice. I offered to drive them, but he didn't want mom tagging along. He did something similar for 15 as well. No "party," but he paid to take a few friends out somewhere.

When I turned 13, my parents would tell me to invite a few close friends to dinner out (nothing fancy). We would have our own table, and my parents would sit elsewhere in the restaurant to eat and pay the bill. I did that until I turned 16 and always enjoyed it.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. We stopped around 12 for DS who didn't want them any longer. DD is happy to keep celebrating as a teen.

Does he do anything with friends?

My older teen has friends over to watch football or invites 1-3 friends to dinner.

My younger one refused any sort of celebration with friends. We went to dinner as a family (and a neighbor who is like family).

I absolutely think you do something ... his favorite pizza, a cake, etc

But he does not have to have a "party".

Nope. We stopped around 12 for DS who didn't want them any longer. DD is happy to keep celebrating as a teen.

Anonymous wrote:15 is too old for birthday parties. Although I did have a party when I turned 30.

OP Here: Not a birthday party just getting together with friends for a movie or some outing.

15 is too old for birthday parties. Although I did have a party when I turned 30.

That's kind of old to have a party. Just let him do something that he wants to do with some friends.

My DD didn't want to do anything when she turned 13. I don't know if she felt in flux with her friends, she knew I was severely struggling financially and didn't want to place a financial burden on me, or she couldn't think of anything. I tried to ask her months later and she didn't have an answer.

Mine hated birthday parties. And I don't think any of his male friends had bday parties in high school. Some of the girls did.

My son hasn't had a birthday party since he was 9. He likes having a small birthday dinner (him, his sibling, and we parents) and we get a cake to have at home. We have been doing experience birthday presents -- tickets to a concert, sporting event, etc. It's his preference.

My kid feels the same way. Two weeks ago I asked him what kind of cake he wanted. He replied chocolate. Today I said I am just checking in, you still want a chocolate cake. He said no, I don't know what I want yet...ugh. And definitely, no party

My kids stopped having birthday parties at 7 - their decision. The only kids I know who have had parties after early ES are girls who tend to do sleepovers. My kids pick something special to do - water park, a class, de doing their room are a few of the things we've done.

Birthday is coming up and I keep asking what he would like to do with his friends. He doesn't commit to anything. The other day he said he didn't want a party. My DH said he should do something for his birthday. He is a firm believer of having a birthday party every year. I didn't really grow up with parties with friends just a family celebration. DH thinks it's strange if you don't celebrate. Anyway, is your teen son having birthday parties?