Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 22:32     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
I found out my exwife was talking to another guy. They hadn't had sex yet, but I found out about them right before their weekend away.

We separated. She asked me to give her one year to do whatever she wanted so that she could decide if I was what she really wanted. Her question was enough for me to decide to get divorced.

She thought it would be any guy's dream to have a free pass. I guess it just depends on the person. I say talk to him about it but just know that the question could lead to other issues.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 21:52     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Someone told me: the guy will dilly dally until he is sure he has a sure thing elsewhere. So you have to do what is best for you, b/c his signs are deliberately mixed. Hanging on by him is just keeping options open.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 21:15     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Anonymous wrote:I typed out a post similar to this this morning and then I deleted before posting.

DH says he needs time to figure things out. I'm tired of waiting. We've been separated for a year and he keeps going back and forth. I love him and we have kids but I'm not waiting around forever. I don't even feel like I owe him a conversation about dating. I guess the idea of possible reconciliation is what stops me. To me once I start dating and especially once I have sex with someone else, it's over for good. Once I break my vows, there is no longer a marriage to repair or work on.


Why are you so big on dating? Do you really need the attention, and you will get it, that much?
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 20:14     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
When I asked for a trial separation, I knew I wouldn't date because that was the sign I was already gone. When we actually did separate (my initiation), I was too absorbed with my kids to even think about dating.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 20:11     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
If you think reconciliation is possible, TALK TO HIM! See where he's at. If your conversation results in agreeing to divorce, you're free to do what you wish.

I am separated only because of the waiting period. I knew the day of that reconciliation was impossible, so if I could have divorceI the next day, I would have.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 15:28     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
I typed out a post similar to this this morning and then I deleted before posting.

DH says he needs time to figure things out. I'm tired of waiting. We've been separated for a year and he keeps going back and forth. I love him and we have kids but I'm not waiting around forever. I don't even feel like I owe him a conversation about dating. I guess the idea of possible reconciliation is what stops me. To me once I start dating and especially once I have sex with someone else, it's over for good. Once I break my vows, there is no longer a marriage to repair or work on.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 14:55     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
ThatBetch wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are asking the wrong person. What does your spouse say?


X 2


x3 This is a convo you have with your spouse (who is still legally your spouse) BEFORE you get with other people.


X4.
ThatBetch
Post 09/03/2016 14:50     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are asking the wrong person. What does your spouse say?


X 2


x3 This is a convo you have with your spouse (who is still legally your spouse) BEFORE you get with other people.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 13:44     Subject: Re:If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Isn't half the reason for seperation so you can sleep with others? If not,what's the point? Go for it.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 10:47     Subject: Re:If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation


If you're female it's done - move on. You won't want to back. For gods sake don't give your ex partner any ideas about possible reconciliation - that's just being mean and a mind fuck.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 10:45     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Anonymous wrote:You are asking the wrong person. What does your spouse say?


X 2
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 09:28     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
You are asking the wrong person. What does your spouse say?
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 09:21     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Dating and getting physical with a man who is not your husband would be a deal breaker for me. I was in a similar situation. Male here. Just get divorced.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2016 09:15     Subject: If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
Is it OK to date? Recently separated although not sure if it is permanent. Would dating (and I do mean physical stuff here) be a deal breaker for one day getting the marriage back on track? It wouldn't on my end, in fact I think it would be good for both of us, but not sure if I am in the norm here. Not sure yet what I want for the future. I'm female if that matters.