ThatBetch
Post 08/23/2016 17:50     Subject: Re:If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
What is with this line of thinking? There've been a lot of these posts lately...

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? If someone wants to leave, let them go. Help them pack!

Think highly enough of yourself to expect better. Being alone is better than being with someone who doesn't want to be there.

As for having kids, yes, that does complicate the logistics, but it doesn't change the point. Teach your kids to have enough self-worth that they don't settle for "partners" who are only halfway in the partnership (at best).

DTMFA
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 17:24     Subject: Re:If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
If he has concrete suggestions as to what is wrong and how to fix, then yes, give it a shot to salvage. If its generic and he isn't interest in trying, not much you can do.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:52     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So he's done this before with a previous wife?

No, was different situation. She left and circumstances were different.


Are you sure?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:20     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Call his bluff.
Tell him you want out and that you're seeing someone and see what he says.

But then even if he comes back, do I accept him back?


Depends. Without having kids with him, I gotta say, I probably wouldn't.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:19     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Anonymous wrote:Call his bluff.
Tell him you want out and that you're seeing someone and see what he says.

But then even if he comes back, do I accept him back?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:13     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
No.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:10     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Call his bluff.
Tell him you want out and that you're seeing someone and see what he says.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:08     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
As a man I agree with PP.

PS: I don't have anything to add, I just wanted to say that I agree with peepee...
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:02     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Let him go. No one needs to live with that kind of insecurity hanging over their relationship.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 15:32     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Let him go peacefully
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 15:29     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Anonymous wrote:So he's done this before with a previous wife?

No, was different situation. She left and circumstances were different.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 15:27     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
So he's done this before with a previous wife?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 15:24     Subject: Re:If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

we each have kids from before and we've worked to make them a family; they view each other as siblings for the most part, but we don't have kids together.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 15:15     Subject: Re:If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
Do you have kids?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 15:13     Subject: If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
DH seems to be going through a midlife crisis like some others have described. Is admittedly confused, 2 weeks ago wants to be close, last week decided he wants out. Says he doesn't want to struggle any more with our relationship. I suspect he's started connected with other women. When he's not being nuts, we have some good times and connection, and I'd rather not be divorced and on my own. Is it worth fighting to salvage our marriage or do things not really change that radically when a man (or woman for that matter) has gone this far?