Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:46     Subject: Re:How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Quit Taking It Personally

Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:46     Subject: Re:How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Don't any of you remember what it was like to be a teenager? Seriously? I swear some people have children and an immediate mind wipe to go along with them.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:29     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
NP - maybe it is considered normal these days, but there is really no reason to put up with the attitude. Mine is 18, and we never tolerated any of the crap described by OP. Just nip it in the bud.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:07     Subject: Re:How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Anonymous wrote:I dont' agree that this behavior is normal. Yes, they can get moody and experience mood swings, but in no way it is normal to treat the parent disrespectfully. It didn't happened just now. Your acceptance of this behaviour will only serve as approval. I have one teenager (16) and one pre-teen girls. In no way they would ever roll their eyes at me or their dad. With the tone, watch how do you talk to them. They have tendency to copy your behaviour.
Pointing out their behaviour is a good thing because they may not even realize that what are they doing is unexeptable. Remember, they are still kids, even if they taller than you. Yes, my 10 y.o. came this morning and started complaints on the kitchen that the oatmeal is too liquidy, and that I should not put fresh berries in it. After I explained to her that if she wants to have the oatmeal made to her liking, she should start making it herself. I told her it is totally unexeptable to make comments like that after I put an effort to cook a breakfast for everyone. She apologized and ate breakfast and said thank you for the breakfast.


If you read any books on child and adolescent development, you will see that it IS normal.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 11:57     Subject: Re:How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Anonymous wrote:I dont' agree that this behavior is normal. Yes, they can get moody and experience mood swings, but in no way it is normal to treat the parent disrespectfully. It didn't happened just now. Your acceptance of this behaviour will only serve as approval. I have one teenager (16) and one pre-teen girls. In no way they would ever roll their eyes at me or their dad. With the tone, watch how do you talk to them. They have tendency to copy your behaviour.
Pointing out their behaviour is a good thing because they may not even realize that what are they doing is unexeptable. Remember, they are still kids, even if they taller than you. Yes, my 10 y.o. came this morning and started complaints on the kitchen that the oatmeal is too liquidy, and that I should not put fresh berries in it. After I explained to her that if she wants to have the oatmeal made to her liking, she should start making it herself. I told her it is totally unexeptable to make comments like that after I put an effort to cook a breakfast for everyone. She apologized and ate breakfast and said thank you for the breakfast.


That's a ten year old. Not a teenager.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 11:53     Subject: Re:How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
I dont' agree that this behavior is normal. Yes, they can get moody and experience mood swings, but in no way it is normal to treat the parent disrespectfully. It didn't happened just now. Your acceptance of this behaviour will only serve as approval. I have one teenager (16) and one pre-teen girls. In no way they would ever roll their eyes at me or their dad. With the tone, watch how do you talk to them. They have tendency to copy your behaviour.
Pointing out their behaviour is a good thing because they may not even realize that what are they doing is unexeptable. Remember, they are still kids, even if they taller than you. Yes, my 10 y.o. came this morning and started complaints on the kitchen that the oatmeal is too liquidy, and that I should not put fresh berries in it. After I explained to her that if she wants to have the oatmeal made to her liking, she should start making it herself. I told her it is totally unexeptable to make comments like that after I put an effort to cook a breakfast for everyone. She apologized and ate breakfast and said thank you for the breakfast.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 22:51     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
A combination of picking battles and pointing it out. Minor things I simply comment ("Watch your tone" is a favorite!) that I don't care for her attitude but if it gets out of hand I simply tell her to take it upstairs until she can pull herself together and be respectful. Half the time what she needs is time to decompress anyway so a teenage timeout is exactly what's in order! Absolute worst case when she's a hot mess I say that I'm taking myself upstairs instead until I can pull myself together. Once that involved turning off all the items for dinner and walking away to take a long shower. It was rather nice!
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 22:48     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
I rolled my eyes at my mom once . I was beaten sooo bad. Learned my lesson real quick.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 22:31     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Ignore, ignore, ignore. And remember one day they will be sweet again.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 22:10     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Anonymous wrote:Definitely pick your battles. And read "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy" ASAP.


This book helped me so much. When my teen does stupid things or makes ridiculous statements I just think to myself, "You're crazy. This too shall pass".
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 21:50     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Nip it in the bud, otherwise it will grow out of control.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 21:02     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
I would try to track if it is hormonal or related to sleep or eating or too much electronics. Push the exercise and healthy eating and time outdoors. Then bank some emotional time with her doing her preferred activities. I would ignore what you can, but I would call her out on outright disrespect and have immediate consequences. Short family meetings are good at this age to allow a preview of the week and let everyone feel heard. She needs to learn to verbalize feelings instead of using a rude tone of voice. A little community service that truly helps other will make her feel better about her place in the world. Do more listening than talking and ask her opinion on world events so you can have conversations that activate her intellect and not her emotions.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 21:02     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
Definitely pick your battles. And read "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy" ASAP.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 19:50     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
I tease her out of it. I let go eye rolls and mumbling under the breath as she walks away. But when I ask if she wants help or something and she says "Um, NO!" I say "Or, no thanks Mom?" and poke her until she repeats "No thanks Mom".

I pick my battles. I point out to her when her attitude is really bad that if she doesn't change it I won't be able to allow her out in public because I can't count on her to behave herself. I make sure she's eaten (she gets grumpy when she hasn't but doesn't realize it).
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2016 19:47     Subject: How do you deal with teenage attitudes?
My once sweet little girl will be a freshman this fall and out of nowhere she has this awful attitude. Constantly talking back, horrible tone, eye rolling. I know this is very normal teenage behavior, but I'm having trouble figuring out when do I let it slide and where do I draw the line. My husband is very frustrated and thinks she should show more respect. How do you manage these behaviors at your home and what consequences do you have for disrespectful behavior.