Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever gotten a child's classroom assignment changed for any reason under the new head of school?

It seems like there might be a few legitimate reasons to change, including bullying or a group dynamic that is really negative and hurtful for a particular child. I'm to willing to give things a good Beauvoir try, but have some concerns. If things go agley, is there truly no possibility of discussion or change?

I am normally someone who would have an open discussion with people, but if the new attitude is "we don't make mistakes," I don't want to risk becoming "that parent" unless/until things get bad enough merit speaking up.

You can try but I only know of one parent that was able to change and she was a sort of vip pia so she got her way. Others with very legitimate concerns were not able to change and their child's year was terrible.

Anonymous wrote:You know that your kid will need to learn how to deal with difficult people in difficult circumstances when they grow up, right? Can't always run away, just saying.

OP here. Yes, of course. But you do know that there's a difference between 8 and 18, right?

Some situations should not be tolerated, especially if a child doesn't have the tools to cope with it yet. There's a reason why we children and adults are treated differently under the law -- and why most adults would agree that children need a degree of protection that most adults don't need.

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Anonymous wrote:You know that your kid will need to learn how to deal with difficult people in difficult circumstances when they grow up, right? Can't always run away, just saying.

Guessing this has something to do with Snowflake not getting "the" teacher everyone wants for that grade.

OP here. Your guess is wrong. I had no preference for a particular teacher.

We have no snowflakes at Beauvoir, only children.

Anonymous wrote:You know that your kid will need to learn how to deal with difficult people in difficult circumstances when they grow up, right? Can't always run away, just saying.

Guessing this has something to do with Snowflake not getting "the" teacher everyone wants for that grade.

Anonymous wrote:How gratuitously nasty of you, since nowhere did I imply that being at Beauvoir is a burden.

The policy around classroom lists has changed under the new head of school. It was different when we applied and entered; parents had more input into the process.

Perhaps so that the school no longe needs to accommodate the many, many (sometimes contradictory) parent requests. Maybe the school believes classes should be built and balanced based on what teachers see in the classroom through the year, not on the dozens of parents who don't think their kid's placement is the best. If you have concerns, speak with Amy or, better yet, with the kid's teacher, to let them know about the issue, and seek guidance on how to address it . If they think a class change is needed, they will let you know I'm sure. FWIW, before the system of having the teachers and administrators design the classes, without parent input (really, demands), most parents I know made requests, mainly geared to getting the "best" teacher without putting it so bluntly. And if a request wasn't honored, all sorts of speculation of what that "meant" (some bias against the kid/family, classism, etc.).

Also, if there's a dynamic you think the school doesn't know of, talk with your kid's teachers about it in the spring so you can be sure they are aware of it in making class lists.

I hope it works out!

You know that your kid will need to learn how to deal with difficult people in difficult circumstances when they grow up, right? Can't always run away, just saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Gasp! That is so "public" of them! this is what I pay good money to avoid.

Oh please. Parents request and get classroom switches all the time in public. Just go away.

I think she meant this part: "bullying or a group dynamic that is really negative and hurtful for a particular child"

Our public's policy is "no changes" but they will make changes if something is dreadfully wrong at the 6 week point or beyond. They want parents/kids to give the classroom dynamic a chance to work out and 99% of the time it does.

Anonymous wrote:Gasp! That is so "public" of them! this is what I pay good money to avoid.

Oh please. Parents request and get classroom switches all the time in public. Just go away.

My guess is they say no to avoid 50 parents in their office the first day of school requesting a change. However, if you have serious valid concerns of bullying or a hurtful environment I most certainly would raise it. Even if their first response is to give it a chance, you have made it known you have some concerns and now the teachers have been put on notice to pay attention to the dynamics. I have a hard time believing they would intentionally leave your child in a hurtful environment they witness. Perhaps go in with the attitude, I'm always willing to try but you have to understand I have concerns and this is why and cite to very specific examples.

Gasp! That is so "public" of them! this is what I pay good money to avoid.

Think you need to reword your post it seems clear.

How gratuitously nasty of you, since nowhere did I imply that being at Beauvoir is a burden.

The policy around classroom lists has changed under the new head of school. It was different when we applied and entered; parents had more input into the process.

Why did you ever apply to this school if this is such an imposition upon you and your child?

Has anyone ever gotten a child's classroom assignment changed for any reason under the new head of school?

It seems like there might be a few legitimate reasons to change, including bullying or a group dynamic that is really negative and hurtful for a particular child. I'm to willing to give things a good Beauvoir try, but have some concerns. If things go agley, is there truly no possibility of discussion or change?

I am normally someone who would have an open discussion with people, but if the new attitude is "we don't make mistakes," I don't want to risk becoming "that parent" unless/until things get bad enough merit speaking up.