I wish my daughter would straighten her hair. She looks stunning with straight hair, instead she insists on going out with puffy, unruly hair that does not flatter her at all. If she would put it up in a pony tail or a french braid, she would look much better. She does it when she interns or works in an office during the summer.

I have offered to pay for Japanese straightening or for keratin treatment, but she has not taken the bait. She gets her hair styled and professionally straightened whenever we are attending a wedding or a big do and she wants to look good. So why would she not get it done? She is a hypochondriac and she has decided that all chemical treatments will make her hair fall out and damage her brain cells. She has also asked me to embrace her 'troll child" (her words) the way she is.

I am trying! I am trying!

I promise she won't do this all through high school.

Each new school year, I am surprised anew by the abrupt changes of style I see in my students. Young teens change abruptly and readily. Just leave your daughter to straighten her hair in peace (and pray that she doesn't decide to shave half of her head in a year, or dye it all black or purple).

Anonymous wrote:My goodness!

I woke up two hours before school started each day 9th- 12th grade to make my hair big. Really really big. Hot rollers & curling irons every day for four years, plus regular perms, occasional crimping wands, and a giant can of aquanet.

Her hair will be fine. She will outgrow it in a few years.

Let her be a normal.teenager.

A staple in the creation of big hair!!

OP, my mom used to iron her hair. With an old iron, as if it were clothes. Your DD's hair will survive.

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Anonymous wrote:Pick your battles. I wouldn't pick that one.

Neither would I.

omg +1 don't worry; it's hair! It's harmless experimenting, and girls are obsessed with grooming at this age (and marketers know this and market to it). Mine has tried a bunch of products. I hate the waste and expense and whatever crazy stuff she's putting on her skin which is probably exacerbating the acne, but I don't pick this battle because in the end, it's harmless and non-permanent experimentation into expressing one's individuality (even if that ironically means "trying to copy others").

My goodness!

I woke up two hours before school started each day 9th- 12th grade to make my hair big. Really really big. Hot rollers & curling irons every day for four years, plus regular perms, occasional crimping wands, and a giant can of aquanet.

Her hair will be fine. She will outgrow it in a few years.

Let her be a normal.teenager.

Anonymous wrote:Pick your battles. I wouldn't pick that one.

Neither would I.

Pick your battles. I wouldn't pick that one.

I'd make her take at least one day off a week and buy really good heat protectant products.

You could try Japanese straightening. If done by the right person.... It won't damage dads hair. I got to hair design zone in Rockville

Yeah, I'd ask if she knows about dry shampoo. It will save her some time and effort and spare her hair every other day or so.

How long does it take her? I would try to talk her into shampooing every other day, maybe try the new Living Proof dry shampoo if she exercises a lot.

Hair grows. It's ok. At least her hair is healthier now than when she's past 25. Long bfefore then she will figure it out.

I also did at that age.

I made up for it in college when I didn't brush it for years...

It's a phase.

Get her some good products and maybe a nice cut / consult without you there.

Let her do it. I used to wear mine in a very tight ponytail every single day 6-7th grade. I thought it looked good. If its what she's comfortable doing, fine
Buy her heat protecting sprays and magazines like Seventeen or Glamour, that talk about hair care

She's 14 and going into 9th grade. Is this normal? I've told her many times how bad it is for her hair but she will not leave the house without straightening her hair.