Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 19:24     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:Is SIL your dh's sister? Were there other signs of family weirdness before this happened? Just curious


Op here. BIL is the one related to my husband. SIL took this weirdly personal though. She came to my baby shower, stayed for a little while, snacked on some nuts in her purse, and left. My theory is now that she didn't like the spotlight off her. Which I think is silly considering she had a bridal shower.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 19:17     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Is SIL your dh's sister? Were there other signs of family weirdness before this happened? Just curious
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 19:14     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


WTF? No. Thoughts like this is how situations like this happen. No, especially if it is their first.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 19:06     Subject: Re:SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:Your BIL/SIL are just selfish. You stole your SIL's thunder, OP. How dare you go into labor like that? Control yourself or hold it in or something. What's your DH's take your his brother's behavior because this is just weird?

I also can't wrap my head around why your in-laws were also calling to ask your DH to leave and tell him to come to the wedding during the birth of your child. You said your SIL hasn't spoken to you since, but what's your relationship like with DH's parents because their behavior seems odd, too.






OP here. Glad everyone sees this as crazy as I do. My in laws are interesting. It was mostly my mother in law calling to see because SIL was freaking out. I've felt distant from them since the birth of my son because the situation made me feel like our baby wasn't important to anyone. I wasn't insisting the wedding not happen or anything! I went into labor 3 weeks early. I invited SIL and BIL to my son's first birthday. They showed up with their own food & SIL took some pictures and left. No words. :-/
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 19:03     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5


Well yeah then they were ridiculous.


Even if he could have made it, would it have been reasonable to expect him to leave his wife and newborn baby?
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 19:01     Subject: Re:SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Your BIL/SIL are just selfish. You stole your SIL's thunder, OP. How dare you go into labor like that? Control yourself or hold it in or something. What's your DH's take your his brother's behavior because this is just weird?

I also can't wrap my head around why your in-laws were also calling to ask your DH to leave and tell him to come to the wedding during the birth of your child. You said your SIL hasn't spoken to you since, but what's your relationship like with DH's parents because their behavior seems odd, too.




Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:47     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Hopefully once they have kids themselves they'll come around. Sorry op.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:46     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
If they are otherwise reasonable people, you will likely get an apology when their first is born. People sometimes can't see past the limits of their own experiences.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:45     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5


Well yeah then they were ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:43     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Anonymous wrote:What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?


Birth was at 405pm and wedding was at 5
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:40     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
What time of day was the birth? Couldn't he have gone after the birth?
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:39     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
That's ridiculods that they'd even ask him. Who is going to leave their wife giving birth for a wedding? I'm sorry OP, they are jerks and so self centered.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:39     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
That really takes the cake!
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:35     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
Lol, I'd let it go. They're assholes, nothing you can do about it - neither of you owe them an apology.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2016 18:32     Subject: SIL/BIL fit about wedding
I went into labor early so my husband couldn't attend his brother's wedding. Water broke the night before the wedding actually. Anyway, the whole day I'm in labor my in laws kept calling my husband asking if he was going to drive the 3 hours to the wedding. SIL hasn't talked to me for a year because of it! Rant over.