Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all settle. There is no one right person for everyone. There are lots of people who can make you happy if you are both willing to put in the effort.

secret of a happy marriage.

+1

I am a DH, second marriage. I knew my wife isn't my 100% perfect fantasy in every way, but she is awesome and perfect in the most important ways and the rest rounded up to 1 nicely...she has said as much about me as well. Limit your "dealbreakers" and only worry about the things where conflict will be unavoidable...for everything else, just be kind and roll with it. Nobody has butterflies and unicorn ponies for more than a few months. Get with someone you can get along with well when the going is tough.

Anonymous wrote:I've heard some interesting stories from friends. So DCUM husbands be honest did you settle with your wife or she the one? If you settled, Why? Did you really want to be with someone else? Don't lie!

What kind of a husband tells someone else he settled? That tells you everything you need to know about him : SHE settled!

Not at all. There is no way I could have done better. If anyone settled it would be her.

Anonymous wrote:We all settle. There is no one right person for everyone. There are lots of people who can make you happy if you are both willing to put in the effort.

secret of a happy marriage.

We all settle. There is no one right person for everyone. There are lots of people who can make you happy if you are both willing to put in the effort.

I agree. We all settle.

Tough question.

In a sense we all settled. we settled on a decision that this person was the best for us at that particular time in our lives.

I met my DW in 1993 we married 4 years later. I was 25 at the time She was 32

I could have easily waited and dated more women and maybe gotten someone else. At the Time she was the best thing in my life. And to this day she sill is.

If I had not married her, then I would have married someone else, who knows when...and I likely would feel the same way about them....

I had two friends with serious medical conditions that married below average women. IMO they discounted their marketability and dated in that discounted band.

Very plain jane and boring women.

I don't think men are as picky as women, so it's harder for them to "settle." Does she give me a boner? Check. Is she reasonably easy to keep happy? Check. Will I not be embarrassed being seen with her in public? Check. That's pretty much it.

What is your definition of settle? It might be different for a man vs a woman.

Lots of projecting right off the bat LOL

OP, I don't think men settle as often as women. Their biology allows them to play longer. I'm sure there are some out there, maybe we'll even hear from them.

Anonymous wrote:He's not leaving his wife.

Lol. This. He's the piece of shit in his relationship, OP. In every way.

Since dcum is primarily a place where women come to bitch about things and one up each other about their kids, I think that any mam hanging out on dcum is the one being "settled" for.

Just saying...

He's not leaving his wife.

I've heard some interesting stories from friends. So DCUM husbands be honest did you settle with your wife or she the one? If you settled, Why? Did you really want to be with someone else? Don't lie!