The guy is controlling her, and that is abuse.

It is hard to trust people as adults.

Just a vent. I lost a friend because she is incapable of being without a dude. That's her issue as she's using the dude because he has a car and whatnot. I guess he's kind to her - that's fine. But what I didn't like is in January we met to catch up and like clockwork after hanging and catching up and we meet 2 dudes next to us and she turns on the charm. I took off. I mean, I was there to catch up because she was I thought my one real friend.

Ethically it bothered me that we decided to marry her spain boyfriend before he had to go back. And for a variety of reasons he was unable to come back around X-mas time. And literally less than a month later she's now with this new dude. I don't get it. I really don't.

Anyhoo - I went through a lot of stuff on my own this spring and left her alone. My daughter asked me why we didn't see her or her kids. I just left it alone.

Then in May I caved. I wanted to catch up. I told her its hard to do this alone and i need people and support. She understood. But same thing, instead of just focusing on me, she had to turn on the charm to some patron etc etc, so I left.

Come the end of May my AC broke over the long weekend. And I had my daughter. Super stressful! I told her what was happening and I really really needed a friend. She tells me "just come over. The dude will be here but he's really kind etc etc etc." WTF? I didn't need to hear about the guy etc. I wanted her to be the friend I was to her. (Back in October I went with her to her lawyers office as her lawyers asked her to bring afriend. They told her she was losing custody of her kids. Broke down crying. I didn't go back to work. I cared for her. I drove her home. I hugged her. I found her a therapist. etc etc etc etc. Because that is what a friend does)

Early June I ran into her and her kids and she looked sad. Frankly all she has to do is say sorry. I've point blank told her why I'm pissed off.

Now if I text her her dude answers the text in his broken english telling me to delete the contact and never text her again. And like she was the one texting that. Messed up!

She's found her support system in some random guy and I was left high and dry. Stings much.

It's hard making friends as adults. But I'm still trying.