How's the actual kiss? Is it a quick passionless one (or worse - the really fast, pursed-mouth kiss that signals distaste). If the eyes darting around is coupled with a blah kiss then yes, you should start thinking about your physical relationship. Look I hate to say it but remember "Pretty Woman" - it's easier to fake passionate sex than hot kissing.

Wooing, flowers, etc. don't work unless the spark is there first. Women don't want to get flowers from the "just friends" guy. That's creepy and awkward.

You have to create some distance and some desire on her part before "wooing" will have any positive effect. Get some hobbies of your own, get in shape, hopefully let her see other women flirting with you. That's the kind of thing that creates desire. Flowers aren't going to cut it.

Anonymous wrote:I close my eyes when I kiss...who looks straight at their partner?!

+1

Not good. If you feel there's distance, there's distance. Counseling?

I say that she is not looking at you directly because even with a kiss, she may feel emotionally detached from you.

Body language speaks volumes over words.

Try to put some effort into re-connecting with your wife on a more emotional level.
Perhaps you can bring home flowers for no special reason except that you love her.

Talk one-on-one about the lack of intimacy in your marriage and how you two can re-ignite that initial spark again!

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:Sex life has dried up. Feeling more like roommates than lovers or a couple. Each doing our own thing

It's this w my husband as well. When he tries to kiss me I cringe and look to side for a quick peck.
Yes we have lost our spark quite some time ago.

So, yes I am glad you are finally realizing something is wrong. You can fix it. Plan a date with her woo her but her a piece of jewelry, just do something and you can win her back I'm sure. During this date out tell her that you miss "us" and you will try to make it right again. (Even if not your fault).

Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:You are creepy OP

You sound like a sad sack and a terrible lover.

You are creepy OP

I close my eyes when I kiss...who looks straight at their partner?!

Danger signs. You're becoming a brother to her.

I can do eye contact for a short kiss, but I feel very uncomfortable with prolonged eye contact while kissing. It doesn't bother me at all in other contexts socially or sexually. I love eye contact during oral. I know that's weird of me.

Have you talked about it?

Sex life has dried up. Feeling more like roommates than lovers or a couple. Each doing our own thing

Why else do you feel distant?

I feel more and more distant from her. We kiss each day -- morning, leaving for work, goodnight, etc. But she NEVER looks at me when she kisses me. Her eyes always dart somewhere else. Is there something there or am I reading too much into it? Is it too much to expect some eye-to-eye engagement?