I have no interest in becoming a Mormon but the Mormon families I know are all very close, loving and hard working

from the outside looking in perhaps. Mormons are no different from any other people -- there are lots of skeletons in those closets. Wealth is very important, and smiling through grief is too. I knew kids who were being abused by parents, and the church did nothing to protect those children, but instead protected the parents from law enforcement. Dissent is not tolerated, and everyone has to toe the line or be kicked out.

http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2016/06/10/3787182/navajo-sue-mormon-over-sex-abuse/
http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/03/10/is-the-mormon-church-expanding-the-role-of-women/
http://www.mormonstories.org/john-dehlin/

The highest rate of Prozac use is by Utah women.

They realky cant drink coffee?
That alone would make me not so nice.

It's cultural. There is an expected way to act if you are Mormon, and people adhere to it. There's a social price to pay if Mormons express negative emotions. It makes it very pleasant for others to work with them, but it makes it very difficult for individuals. There's a high rate of depression in Utah and in members of the Mormon church.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/MindMoodNews/story?id=4403731&page=1

http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865571984/UVU-professors-study-puts-focus-on-LDS-women-and-depression.html?pg=all

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no different from any other religious cult - And I believe all religions are cults.

I have no interest in becoming a Mormon but the Mormon families I know are all very close, loving and hard working.

I wonder the same thing. The Mormon missionaries who were in my neighborhood were so nice. They introduced themselves, I said I wasn't interested and they just thanked me and went on their merry way. I will give credit to the Mormons - very clean cut and nice young people.

Anonymous wrote:I was raised Mormon. Not all of them are that nice, and when you leave, they are quick to shut you out.

OP here. I can actually understand a religious sect shutting out someone who rejects the sect's values and leaves. What do you think enables the nice ones to be so nice?

I was raised Mormon. Not all of them are that nice, and when you leave, they are quick to shut you out.

Not all Mormons are nice...

I know. The Mormon people I know are the nicest people.

Anonymous wrote:I have known a group of Mormon lawyers for almost a decade and not one has ever gossiped, shirked work, boasted, been caught in a lie, or lost their temper to my knowledge. I have been to their houses, met their wives, worked closely with them on miserable cases with long days, late nights, and awful colleagues. I have seen them each under extreme pressure and in unfair situations. Yet, they have been unfailingly kind, patient, calm, and good.

How is this possible?

There is literally no one else I have ever known who has kept up such exemplary behavior for even a week. Not even other religious people I know (who profess to have the "joy of the Lord" and other such nonsense, but are worse than most athiests and agnostics who profess no such moral standards).

I don't have a religious bone in my body, but I would love to learn how to maintain such exemplary behavior. I would also love to teach it to my kids.

I feel like there is a joke in there somewhere...

Must be the magic undies.

I have no idea, but my experience has been the same. I wish I could believe in the Book of Mormon, because it seems to be quite magical.

I have known a group of Mormon lawyers for almost a decade and not one has ever gossiped, shirked work, boasted, been caught in a lie, or lost their temper to my knowledge. I have been to their houses, met their wives, worked closely with them on miserable cases with long days, late nights, and awful colleagues. I have seen them each under extreme pressure and in unfair situations. Yet, they have been unfailingly kind, patient, calm, and good.

How is this possible?

There is literally no one else I have ever known who has kept up such exemplary behavior for even a week. Not even other religious people I know (who profess to have the "joy of the Lord" and other such nonsense, but are worse than most athiests and agnostics who profess no such moral standards).

I don't have a religious bone in my body, but I would love to learn how to maintain such exemplary behavior. I would also love to teach it to my kids.