I don't understand texting to make sure the woman got home safely. She normally goes through out the day and gets home safely. Why would a date be any different? Because your magical evening together transforms her into someone who can't take care of herself? The exception is if she drank a lot or the uber driver is sketchy (i.e., when there is a reason to be concerned).

Anonymous wrote:"I agree with the poster who said that an interested person will contact you within 24-48 hours."

+2. Or even more common, they will ask you out at the end of the first date.

That was also my practice. If we had fun and I learned about something she likes, I would say, ' let's get together and go to ..... '

When I was meeting people online, I didn't want to be pushed for a second date fast. My time was limited and dating took energy. However, I appreciated immediate contact after a date but it didn't need to be about setting up date 2. As it happens, I am dating someone now who didn't contact me for a week after our first date. I don't write people off just because they didn't obey circumscribed rules

Some people intentionally wait a few days to avoid coming across as desperate. If it's been more than 10 days, without any contact, I'd probably move on.

Anonymous wrote:just a tip guy who successfully used match.com to meet my wife -

if I had a good time on the first date and thought there was some spark and interest from her part, I would ask for the second date at the end of the first date. I would follow up the next day and make plans with her.

Woman here. Agree. That's always happened to me.

And then they text me to make sure I got home safely. Those are the best guys.

"I agree with the poster who said that an interested person will contact you within 24-48 hours."

+2. Or even more common, they will ask you out at the end of the first date.

just a tip guy who successfully used match.com to meet my wife -

if I had a good time on the first date and thought there was some spark and interest from her part, I would ask for the second date at the end of the first date. I would follow up the next day and make plans with her.

I agree with the poster who said that an interested person will contact you within 24-48 hours.

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Anonymous wrote:OK. I'll move on. Thanks.

No problem. Everyone deserves someone who is excited about them and can't wait to see them again and learn more. Not someone who is just meh.

Agree with PP. Dating is tough, especially when you're interested in someone and their isn't mutual interest. Happens to everyone, and please don't let it get you down. Most importantly, set boundaries and standards--don't allow someone who isn't DOING (not just saying) the right things to continue to see you. Someone who is a good person and who is actually truly interested in you WILL be getting in touch, usually within 24-48 hours.

If someone gets in touch after a week with an excuse and offers to get together, unless it's something huge (unexpected death or something serious), be very careful about trusting it's true. I think they shop around and only come back later after gaps if they're horny, lonely, etc.

You will KNOW when someone is interested enough to merit your attention.

Anonymous wrote:OK. I'll move on. Thanks.

No problem. Everyone deserves someone who is excited about them and can't wait to see them again and learn more. Not someone who is just meh.

OK. I'll move on. Thanks.

No, you don't need to get a grip OP. Your date is not that interested. If they ever get around to calling you again do not go out with them, it won't go anywhere.

Like a week or so. I'll get a grip. Thanks.

How do you define "quickly?"

Here's a tip: get a grip.

If someone doesn't get in touch quickly after the first date does it mean no more dates?