We either ask for separate checks or we split it evenly. Right now I'm pregnant, so I'm not drinking the bottles of wine that my friends are, so I'm more likely to get my own bill.

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Anonymous wrote:Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

That's probably because you are ordering the steak and she is getting the salad and water. Pay your own way. I pay my share, taxes and tip. You pay yours.

I was going to say the same thing - it is always the people who order more who want to split the check evenly. I never talk about my money issues, but there's a reason I order an appetizer as my main dish and only get water, and no dessert.

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Anonymous wrote:Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

That's probably because you are ordering the steak and she is getting the salad and water. Pay your own way. I pay my share, taxes and tip. You pay yours.

Yup. Nothing infuriates me more than the person who has 4 drinks to everyone else's 1-2 drinks and wants to split the bill evenly. YOU are the cheapskate, not the salad and water person. Way to take advantage of your friends.

That's one way to look at it. Another way would be that another time, you'll have the extra drink or the more expensive entree. It all evens out. You sound like a great friend!

Always split evenly.

Typically I agree with you. But there are times when people are broke -- bc their start up is running out of money and didn't make payroll on time; or the hot water heater went on the blink or whatever. And they likely aren't announcing it to their friends. I always assume people have things like that going on before I suggest splitting the bill vs. pay your own share. If it comes out to a $2 difference -- fine, it evens out over time. If I really had a steak and drinks, while a friend had a drink and ate nothing -- um no, I'm not asking her to subsidize it for me.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. I went to a bday party dinner and ordered a salad and one glass of wine because I'm broke. Everyone else had steaks and millions of glasses of wine. My share of the bill was $225. I was so mad.

When money was tight for me, I would either skip this sort of event or discuss my situation in advance.

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Anonymous wrote:Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

That's probably because you are ordering the steak and she is getting the salad and water. Pay your own way. I pay my share, taxes and tip. You pay yours.

Yup. Nothing infuriates me more than the person who has 4 drinks to everyone else's 1-2 drinks and wants to split the bill evenly. YOU are the cheapskate, not the salad and water person. Way to take advantage of your friends.

That's one way to look at it. Another way would be that another time, you'll have the extra drink or the more expensive entree. It all evens out. You sound like a great friend!

Always split evenly.

Uh..why would you want someone to kick in more, if they can't afford it?
weird.

I prefer to split evenly if everyone orders similar things. But if there is a huge difference, no questions. pay for what YOU order.

We usually split down the middle. If I know I've had something especially expensive or more drinks, I'll offer to leave a bigger portion of the tip, or maybe all of it. Friends often do the same. Can't recall off the top of my head how often it happens, but I don't think anyone's feelings are hurt, so it seems to work for us.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. I went to a bday party dinner and ordered a salad and one glass of wine because I'm broke. Everyone else had steaks and millions of glasses of wine. My share of the bill was $225. I was so mad.

Ouch. :/

In a situation like this you can always go to the waiter covertly and explain you want to pay for [x] before the bill reaches the table. However, at something like a birthday dinner sometimes this sort of thing is to be expected...

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Anonymous wrote:Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

That's probably because you are ordering the steak and she is getting the salad and water. Pay your own way. I pay my share, taxes and tip. You pay yours.

Yup. Nothing infuriates me more than the person who has 4 drinks to everyone else's 1-2 drinks and wants to split the bill evenly. YOU are the cheapskate, not the salad and water person. Way to take advantage of your friends.

That's one way to look at it. Another way would be that another time, you'll have the extra drink or the more expensive entree. It all evens out. You sound like a great friend!

Always split evenly.

Seriously. I went to a bday party dinner and ordered a salad and one glass of wine because I'm broke. Everyone else had steaks and millions of glasses of wine. My share of the bill was $225. I was so mad.

Depends. Other families in similar financial circumstances? Split evenly. Otherwise we pay or gets separate bills, depending.

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Anonymous wrote:Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

That's probably because you are ordering the steak and she is getting the salad and water. Pay your own way. I pay my share, taxes and tip. You pay yours.

Yup. Nothing infuriates me more than the person who has 4 drinks to everyone else's 1-2 drinks and wants to split the bill evenly. YOU are the cheapskate, not the salad and water person. Way to take advantage of your friends.

Anonymous wrote:Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

That's probably because you are ordering the steak and she is getting the salad and water. Pay your own way. I pay my share, taxes and tip. You pay yours.

Split it, evenly, down the middle. Nothing infuriates me more than women who insist on itemizing. "You had the steak but I only had the salad and water ..." AHHHHHHHHHH!

If it's as a couple of just one of us with our friends, we split the check. If it's with other families we ask for separate checks.

Does it differ if you are going out with other couples or families with different numbers and ages of kids?