Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 09:18     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Don't pay any attention to this bisexual nonsense from a high school girl. It's the latest cool phase to go through these days.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 09:16     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?



No 14 year old has any idea whether they are gay or bisexual. While five years ago she would have been shunned and made fun of its now all the rage to pretend to be gay or bisexual. A 14 year old does not have a clue what they are unless they have had sex with a boy and another girl and I doubt that has happened.

It's high school drama and the less you talk about it the better that things will turn out.


You post this nonsense on EVERY post about this. Its just false, no matter how much you want that narrative to be true, because, what?, it helps you hang on to your notion of the world that hasn't changed without you?

It is not "the rage". Look up stats about teen homelessness, teen suicide, child abandonment, and then the myriad problems that follow those things (abuse, assault, drug use, dropping out of school) for kids who are not hetero vs. those who are. Its not "the rage", its still a really hard effing existence. These are kids, not stats, get a brain and then get a heart.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 09:15     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?



No 14 year old has any idea whether they are gay or bisexual. While five years ago she would have been shunned and made fun of its now all the rage to pretend to be gay or bisexual. A 14 year old does not have a clue what they are unless they have had sex with a boy and another girl and I doubt that has happened.

It's high school drama and the less you talk about it the better that things will turn out.

Did you know your sexual identity before you had sex? I sure did. I knew I was straight when I had my first crush at 7 years old. I didn't have sex until I was 20. Sexuality and attraction can be fluid, and this girl may end up gay, straight, or somewhere in between, but don't diminish her experience with "it's just a fad & she won't know until she's older."
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 08:46     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?



No 14 year old has any idea whether they are gay or bisexual. While five years ago she would have been shunned and made fun of its now all the rage to pretend to be gay or bisexual. A 14 year old does not have a clue what they are unless they have had sex with a boy and another girl and I doubt that has happened.

It's high school drama and the less you talk about it the better that things will turn out.


Word ^^. It really is a trend these days. Dont pay too much attention to this nonsense.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 07:02     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
I am bi and once had a girlfriend (romantic) sleep over. Though it was covert my parents sniffed it out and she was no longer allowed to sleep over.

That said, I had plenty of platonic friends who slept over a ton. If you trust your child to be forthright, state your expectation that you don't want their romantic interests sleeping over.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 06:58     Subject: Re:What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:A “relationship” at age 14? Really?


NP here and curious, what is wrong with that? My parents were high school sweethearts who started dating at 15, two of my closest friends are a couple who started dating at 14, and I never gave any of my kids (23, 21, and 13) a minimum age they had to be in order to date.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 00:11     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nope. No sleepovers. Same rules you would have if she were a he.


i dont know. I think sleeping over is the norm for teens, at least it was in the 90s.


Having sleepovers with the person you were dating as a 14 year old was the norm when you were in 8th/9th grade when you were a kid?

I am not that much older than you and the only kids who had sleepovers with their dating partners while teens were what we called the "country" families where getting married at 18 was the norm.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 00:07     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nope. No sleepovers. Same rules you would have if she were a he.


i dont know. I think sleeping over is the norm for teens, at least it was in the 90s.


I am talking about the "girlfriend" sleeping over.

Same rules for her "girlfriends" as mom would have if it were a "boyfriend"
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2016 00:04     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
No sleepovers with anyone you are in a romantic relationship with or have romantic feelings towards.

That's my rule.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2016 23:50     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?



No 14 year old has any idea whether they are gay or bisexual. While five years ago she would have been shunned and made fun of its now all the rage to pretend to be gay or bisexual. A 14 year old does not have a clue what they are unless they have had sex with a boy and another girl and I doubt that has happened.

It's high school drama and the less you talk about it the better that things will turn out.


You're kidding.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2016 23:10     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?



No 14 year old has any idea whether they are gay or bisexual. While five years ago she would have been shunned and made fun of its now all the rage to pretend to be gay or bisexual. A 14 year old does not have a clue what they are unless they have had sex with a boy and another girl and I doubt that has happened.

It's high school drama and the less you talk about it the better that things will turn out.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2016 23:03     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Anonymous wrote:Nope. No sleepovers. Same rules you would have if she were a he.


i dont know. I think sleeping over is the norm for teens, at least it was in the 90s.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2016 23:02     Subject: Re:What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
A “relationship” at age 14? Really?
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2016 22:59     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
Nope. No sleepovers. Same rules you would have if she were a he.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2016 22:57     Subject: What to do about sleepovers for bisexual/gay teens?
So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?