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Anonymous wrote:You can dislocate someone's shoulder by dragging them by the arm. Part of me thinks OP is a troll, being so concerned that H slapped her wrist but is ok with her child being dragged.

OP intervened because she was NOT ok w/ the dragging

OP did not intervene. The story is bogus.

It sounds like there are anger management issues all around. He yelled, you yelled. How often do you yell at home? Why not start by acknowledging that you may have a problem too, have a family meeting and talk about all the yelling and how it affects everyone. Then make a pledge that everyone, including you, cuts it out?

Anonymous wrote:You can dislocate someone's shoulder by dragging them by the arm. Part of me thinks OP is a troll, being so concerned that H slapped her wrist but is ok with her child being dragged.

OP intervened because she was NOT ok w/ the dragging

Anonymous wrote:You can dislocate someone's shoulder by dragging them by the arm. Part of me thinks OP is a troll, being so concerned that H slapped her wrist but is ok with her child being dragged.

I agree. I'm so filled with "anger, humiliation, disappointment, and hurt" that I immediately post on DCUM about my traumatic experience.

Anonymous wrote:Yawn

?????

You can dislocate someone's shoulder by dragging them by the arm. Part of me thinks OP is a troll, being so concerned that H slapped her wrist but is ok with her child being dragged.

Leave. Call a Domestic Violence hotline, find out where to go, take your child and leave.

I think you should be direct and tell him that you won't stand by and allow your family to start down the slippery slope of abuse and fear. What he did today has scarred your child, I'm sure of it. It will never be forgotten. Your husband needs to demonstrate taking steps to address his anger or you both leave him. And frankly, if things are bumpy already you might want to call it quits now. Your child only has one shot at childhood.

It only takes ONE time OP.

I would take his action as a red flag of possible things to come.

He needs to nip his anger reactions in the bud right now.
He needs to seek therapy for his anger & also consider taking an anger-managing course.

If he ignores this, things will only get worse over time which doesn't bode well for your marriage.

I totally get why he would scare you when he loses his temper.
It seems as if his behavior can be very unpredictable as well as violent too.

I would be much more concerned about him dragging a 7 yo. The wrist slapping would be a hell of a wake up call for me, but nothing like violence towards my child.

I'm so sorry this happened OP. You should give him an ultimatum of anger management therapy or divorce. What he did is completely unacceptable.

Yawn

Tell him he needs to go to anger management or move out.

Subject should have said slapped not slept

Dh had a fit of rage directed at our 7 year old. Yelled at him and dragged him by the arm. When I intervened by calling him loudly he turned around and slapped my wrist very hard. I am literally short of breath right now with anger, humiliation, disappointment and hurt. He is apologetic but the damage is done. I don't know know how to move on from this. He is prone to angry outbursts and there are many relationship issues to work out. I have told him before that I am scared of him when he is angry but he always assured me that he would never raise his hand at me. I am just not even sure what to do now.