I don't understand the problem. You don't have a no screen time rule, dd uses your iPad every day. Say thank you and move on.

Anonymous wrote:I would thank them and continue with the rules you have in place.
She doesn't need to know it is "hers" and nothing about the actual use of the iPad needs to change, you just now have an extra iPad.

The only downside is if they give it to her and make a big deal about it. Any chance they are out of town and mailing it?

I agree with this and would be a bit anxious about the bolded. How do they plan to give it to your daughter?

If they're hoping to make it a big deal present, in person, then I'd have your husband convey to them that you (plural) very much appreciate the generosity, but don't want to raise DD's expectations re the rules changing, so you'll need to coordinate messaging/presentation.

You have every right to be annoyed. I would also put it in a closet. Also, they can return it. Shoot, you might be able to return it.

Don't sweat it. Accept it graciously, set rules as needed with your child, move on with your life.

I do agree with you though that it's over the top, and I would (kindly) let them know that.

Anonymous wrote:I would thank them and continue with the rules you have in place.
She doesn't need to know it is "hers" and nothing about the actual use of the iPad needs to change, you just now have an extra iPad.

The only downside is if they give it to her and make a big deal about it. Any chance they are out of town and mailing it?

The rules don't need to change OP. When she isn't using it put it up.

Anonymous wrote:I would thank them and continue with the rules you have in place.
She doesn't need to know it is "hers" and nothing about the actual use of the iPad needs to change, you just now have an extra iPad.

The only downside is if they give it to her and make a big deal about it. Any chance they are out of town and mailing it?

This.

Stick it in a closet and forget about it.

Our DD'S godparents gave our daughter one at age 4. We loaded educational apps, made sure it didn't rest on her lap, and didn't make a big deal out of it. Made her learn to use it in silent mode when in public. Now, 5 years later she still has it, never broke it, is pretty disinterested in tech except as a means to an end (researching animals, weather, Song lyrics, recipes, calculator, some math games and Spanish language help, occasional video, infrequent minecraft). Mainly uses it when sick or on long car trips. I think it was good for her. Depends on the kid, and the parents.

I would thank them and continue with the rules you have in place.
She doesn't need to know it is "hers" and nothing about the actual use of the iPad needs to change, you just now have an extra iPad.

The only downside is if they give it to her and make a big deal about it. Any chance they are out of town and mailing it?

Free iPad for you, OP!

Meh... I don't see the big deal. Limit it to 15 minutes a day or long car rides, etc... if you don't want it, we'll take it.

Anonymous wrote:I would be upset too. Tell them that your pediatrician thinks Devices for kids cause ADHD and if they do give it to her you will be severely limiting her use with it until she's 8.

They are going to wonder why op chose a quack of a pediatrician.

Make it a "family" iPad. She doesn't need to have unlimited access to it. I have some games on my iPad and can count on one hand th number of times dd has used it in the past year.

I would be upset too. Tell them that your pediatrician thinks Devices for kids cause ADHD and if they do give it to her you will be severely limiting her use with it until she's 8.

(A) We are getting her a small doll as a gift from baby sister. ILs were aware of this.
(B) ILs know we limit screen time. DD gets to play games on my iPad in the mornings while we get ready and gets to watch one TV show at night while I make dinner. That's enough for her, she never complains when we take it away, she's perfectly happy with what she gets.
(C) She just got a ton of birthday gifts (and still has a few she hasn't opened yet) and baby is due in a week so she really, really doesn't need this.

They already bought it, they just told DH who told me. DH doesn't really care but I think it's major overkill and although I recognize DD is going to have less one on one parent time once the new baby is born, DH is taking a month long paternity leave, I'm taking four months off, my mom will be here for over a month, and we're keeping her in preschool, so she will still get plenty of attention.

This is mostly a vent but a little bit wondering if I can just tell them not to give it to her. I generally have a very good relationship with them. They are obviously very kind and generous people but this is too much. A three year old does not need an iPad!!