It might be a light load, but it's stressful because as a SAHM I want to play with my son and enjoy precious time with him instead of managing of household. But, being a SAHM means it's my job to keep the house clean. That's what was decided, at least. If we wanted a cleaning lady id have to work to get the money to pay for one.

I wish someone would just give OP some schedule ideas. She said her other thread got high jacked by the same debate. Go to that thread if you want to debate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^This. The reason that it turns into a SAH vs. WOH thread is because WOH parents have to deal all these tasks too, in addition to working. It just seems a little precious to agonize about what is, in reality, a light load with plenty of hours to accomplish.

I outsourced most of my household tasks when I was working so that I could spend my free time spending quality time with my kids and husband.

That's great that you could afford to do that!

Anonymous wrote:Your daily activities can be completed by 12 noon everyday. I'm looking at your list and thinking that's not much. They are only 3 people living in the home. 2 adults and 1 infant. It's not much compared to living in a home of 5 or more and still keep everything organized.

OP here. I know. I'm new at this and have a lot to learn about organizing my schedule. It shouldn't be hard but some days it is. I'm always interested in hearing how people manage their households.

I only mentioned the SAHM aspect because sometimes people share how they get creative with cleaning and doing chores with a baby in tow all day and making more mess as I go.

15:39 ~ I thought that was helpful.

Anonymous wrote:^^This. The reason that it turns into a SAH vs. WOH thread is because WOH parents have to deal all these tasks too, in addition to working. It just seems a little precious to agonize about what is, in reality, a light load with plenty of hours to accomplish.

I outsourced most of my household tasks when I was working so that I could spend my free time spending quality time with my kids and husband.

I'm a recent SAHM so I was working until last year. My house is MUCH messier now that we are home much more. We eat at home more so more dishes and tables to clean up. I get kids to help tidy up their toys but we host play dates often and the toys get messy again.

I get cleaning service every other week. That is the only time our house is truly clean.

I do a load of laundry every other day and all the laundry is never fully folded since we usually have another load waiting in the dryer.

I quit my job to hang out with my kids, not clean toilets and vacuum constantly.

It's not rocket science, but involves variable such as number of rooms, whether DH handles any chores etc. But in general, with a baby, I tended to focus more on floor cleanliness, so would vacuum/sweep/mop pretty much daily. Beds made/meal prep daily. Otherwise, laundry and food shopping 2x/week on different days and bathrooms once per week. Exercise then relax during baby's nap.

Anonymous wrote:^^This. The reason that it turns into a SAH vs. WOH thread is because WOH parents have to deal all these tasks too, in addition to working. It just seems a little precious to agonize about what is, in reality, a light load with plenty of hours to accomplish.

If you have nothing constructive to add, then just STFU. OP asked a very specific question. I'm a WOHM and would do more chores if I made myself a chore chart.

Anonymous wrote:^^This. The reason that it turns into a SAH vs. WOH thread is because WOH parents have to deal all these tasks too, in addition to working. It just seems a little precious to agonize about what is, in reality, a light load with plenty of hours to accomplish.

Wow, someone's bitter. Child care is a "job" whether you're paid for it or not.

You are not both a SAHm and WOHM

Anonymous[b wrote:]I'm both SAHM and WOHM [/b]since I'm teacher- and it's more overwhelming to be home because it feels like you should be doing something every single minute, but that's simply not possible.

For the broad picture:

Friday: clean the house so that it's clean for the weekend (and any possible guests who might come over)

Saturday: laundry

Sunday: put away clean laundry, make grocery shopping list

Monday: grocery shopping

Tuesday: general cleanup

Wednesday: laundry

Thursday: put away laundry, general cleanup

My mantra when I'm home for the summer is that dinner must be prepped while little one is napping- so dinner must be about 80% "done" by about 3 PM (meaning everything is chopped, marinated, put together and in the fridge before she wakes up)

Unless there's a disaster involving poop, vomit, or paint, I don't do laundry unless it's one of my laundry days. We have enough bathing suits to get by.

Not sure if it's helpful, but it's how I manage the full day at home with 2 kids (ages 7 and 2)

No you are not.

^^This. The reason that it turns into a SAH vs. WOH thread is because WOH parents have to deal all these tasks too, in addition to working. It just seems a little precious to agonize about what is, in reality, a light load with plenty of hours to accomplish.

Your daily activities can be completed by 12 noon everyday. I'm looking at your list and thinking that's not much. They are only 3 people living in the home. 2 adults and 1 infant. It's not much compared to living in a home of 5 or more and still keep everything organized.

I'm both SAHM and WOHM since I'm teacher- and it's more overwhelming to be home because it feels like you should be doing something every single minute, but that's simply not possible.

For the broad picture:

Friday: clean the house so that it's clean for the weekend (and any possible guests who might come over)

Saturday: laundry

Sunday: put away clean laundry, make grocery shopping list

Monday: grocery shopping

Tuesday: general cleanup

Wednesday: laundry

Thursday: put away laundry, general cleanup

My mantra when I'm home for the summer is that dinner must be prepped while little one is napping- so dinner must be about 80% "done" by about 3 PM (meaning everything is chopped, marinated, put together and in the fridge before she wakes up)

Unless there's a disaster involving poop, vomit, or paint, I don't do laundry unless it's one of my laundry days. We have enough bathing suits to get by.

Not sure if it's helpful, but it's how I manage the full day at home with 2 kids (ages 7 and 2)

I'm the OP to the "help me exist as a parent" post. It got highjacked into a WOHM vs SAHM schedule before I was able to get more feedback. One thing I liked that someone posted was to have a schedule for chores to do around the house. That way, when I see something dirty/laundry/etc I can think "I'll get to that on Tuesday" (or whenever the scheduled day is.) I tend to get so overwhelmed every day: there's never-ending daily tasks (meals, dishes, tidying up) and also big jobs: laundry, vacuuming, dusting, etc. I am going to get a cleaning lady 1x a month for a deep cleaning which will be a huge help.

I was a classroom teacher so I am all about schedules and being organized. I'd love to hear others schedules or feel free to create one for me! Below is what I want to accomplish:
Daily:
tidying up
dishes after meals
water plants
exercise
outdoor time/activity with baby
meal prep as needed, but generally 3x a day. DH does dinner occasionally.

Weekly:
vacuum (2x)
dust (2x)
mop and clean kitchen counters
bathroom (DH job)
laundry
switch bedding

PS: I have an 11 month old and am due in December with #2. Baby naps 2x a day, 8:30-9:30 and 2-3. He goes to bed at 6pm.