Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 21:37     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Anonymous wrote:
We don't, but SIL does. She dislikes us, goodness knows why.


This wasn't OP, right?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 21:31     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Visiting family is not a vacation. Since you do not get along with your SIL why would you want to get together?


OP here. Who said I do not get along with my SIL?? I've never had an issue with her.

When we visit, we see multiple people and family members, so it's more of a group visit. And yes visiting family can be "boring" (but doesn't have to be that way). They know the invitation is always open, but I guess I don't understand people saying they "value family" but aren't interested in making the effort. A little bit of effort for a weekend visit can go a long way, especially when time/money aren't an issue.


Ok....if she dislikes you why would you want to have her visit?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 21:09     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
If you enjoy seeing them you could suggest taking a vacation together somewhere nice.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 20:44     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
I don't know that I would call it obnoxious. If you don't want to travel to see them don't. Better to not go than to go and feel resentful.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 20:27     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Visiting family is not a vacation. Since you do not get along with your SIL why would you want to get together?


OP here. Who said I do not get along with my SIL?? I've never had an issue with her.

When we visit, we see multiple people and family members, so it's more of a group visit. And yes visiting family can be "boring" (but doesn't have to be that way). They know the invitation is always open, but I guess I don't understand people saying they "value family" but aren't interested in making the effort. A little bit of effort for a weekend visit can go a long way, especially when time/money aren't an issue.


A few things:

1- it's ok for people to have different definitions of valuing family. 2x/yr is enough for some ppl.

2- they are making as much effort as they want. If you want to see them more then say it, and make a plan.

3- myob

4- stop counting other people's time and money
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 20:17     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Anonymous wrote:Visiting family is not a vacation. Since you do not get along with your SIL why would you want to get together?


OP here. Who said I do not get along with my SIL?? I've never had an issue with her.

When we visit, we see multiple people and family members, so it's more of a group visit. And yes visiting family can be "boring" (but doesn't have to be that way). They know the invitation is always open, but I guess I don't understand people saying they "value family" but aren't interested in making the effort. A little bit of effort for a weekend visit can go a long way, especially when time/money aren't an issue.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:59     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Anonymous wrote:Visiting family is not a vacation. Since you do not get along with your SIL why would you want to get together?


This. I assure you, this is not accidental that they are spending their vacations in the Caribbean!
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:57     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Have you actually invited them to visit?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:53     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Visiting family is not a vacation. Since you do not get along with your SIL why would you want to get together?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:46     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Traveling is different than seeing family. One is a hobby. The other is an obligation.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:41     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Stop volunteering to visit them. If they want to see you, they'll visit you or invite you to stay with them.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:19     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
family is so boring compared to the trips they're taking. If you're going to see them, they don't need to come see you.

Cut your trips off for a year and maybe you can reshuffle the way it works.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:17     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?

We don't, but SIL does. She dislikes us, goodness knows why.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:16     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
They already see you twice a year. If you want them to see you suggest switching
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2016 19:15     Subject: Is it normal to take multiple vacations but never visit family?
Sibling and spouse take about 5 separate week-long Caribbean trips a year. They can afford it, they have the time, and that's great. Happy for them.

While they talk of visiting us (approx 1-hr direct flight) and talk of the importance of family/relatives, it never comes to fruition. Not for a single weekend, not for years. We visit about 2x annually.

Am I wrong to thing this seems maybe a little obnoxious?