SIL seems to be the new MIL in this forum lately

and

gaslighting is the new obtuse

sorry that was the gaslamp district. my bad. borders on the same.

wtf. san diego district is awesome. great beer there too.

I need to make some popcorn for this thread.

There is definitely at least one poster on DCUM who
is fascinated by gaslighting. Perhaps they watched the movie on TCM.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody knows what they mean.

Thanks to MIL, I know Borderline very well now. Never heard the term before 5 years ago.

Borderline people create a lot of chaos in the lives of people around them. That's why they're so frequently discussed in places like this. If MIL were chill, I'd have nothing to write about.

I believe your MIL creates chaos, sure. But the term for that isn't as "deep" and "complex" as BPD--she's just a pain in the ass. Really. Don't play armchair psychologist when she's just a PITA!

I'm sorry, have you met my MIL? Trust me, if she were just a PITA, I'd have no trouble saying so. Her behaviour is extreme. She's alienated just about everyone in her life - she was estranged from her own mother for 20 years, and has been estranged from her two sisters for longer than that. She does the classic borderline "splitting" behaviour - I was the golden DIL who could do no wrong until I wasn't, and now she's decided she hates me. She's done awful things to many people over the years. I never knew anyone like her until I met dh and his family. I was befuddled by it for years. Learning about BPD was a revelation, and I understood her so much better after that.

I don't care if you don't believe me. My MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder. Is what it is.

Ok so I think I know what it means to gaslight someone. Neighbor hates his step kid so, when the step kid wanted to stay home sick with a fever, the step dad put a digital thermometer in a cup of hot water and put it in the microwave. Mom looks for thermometer to take the kids temp and step dad then tries to convince sick child she put thermometer in microwave. Younger brother of sick child then claims he did it because step dad is evil and borderline.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody knows what they mean.

Thanks to MIL, I know Borderline very well now. Never heard the term before 5 years ago.

Borderline people create a lot of chaos in the lives of people around them. That's why they're so frequently discussed in places like this. If MIL were chill, I'd have nothing to write about.

I believe your MIL creates chaos, sure. But the term for that isn't as "deep" and "complex" as BPD--she's just a pain in the ass. Really. Don't play armchair psychologist when she's just a PITA!

Anonymous wrote:

Borderline OP is gaslighting us!!!

Ha!

Anonymous wrote:Nobody knows what they mean.

Thanks to MIL, I know Borderline very well now. Never heard the term before 5 years ago.

Borderline people create a lot of chaos in the lives of people around them. That's why they're so frequently discussed in places like this. If MIL were chill, I'd have nothing to write about.

You've got major control issues, OP.

Borderline OP is gaslighting us!!!

Nobody knows what they mean.

If those bother you, the Family Relationships forum might not be a good match.

It's enough, already.