LoveLiveMusicDad wrote:About to turn 50. Shaved it all last year. Honestly embraced the baldness. Still joke about wanting hair, but I really think fitness, skin and getting clothes that fit > hair/hair color. A great suit, tie, shirt combo or a pair of fitted jeans will impact your appearance as much as hair.

I'm all about bald men. My husband is getting there.

But I find that women with gray are always being attacked or questioned.

haven't colored mine in 12 years! I get great cuts, use good products and take care of myself.

About to turn 50. Shaved it all last year. Honestly embraced the baldness. Still joke about wanting hair, but I really think fitness, skin and getting clothes that fit > hair/hair color. A great suit, tie, shirt combo or a pair of fitted jeans will impact your appearance as much as hair.

I color my hair, which is also thinning on top. The grey makes me look very old and although I am in good shape, I consult for a living and do not want to look "tired".

52...minimal grey hair -- though a salt and pepper beard. I do not color anything. It is just appearances. Now, if I could make the insides look younger -- oh wait, the stents did that.

Anonymous wrote:Double standard. No one complains about women coloring their hair and wearing makeup. Why should different rules apply to men? Do you want people judging you as meanly as you have judged an entire gender?

Anonymous wrote:Please don't. You can tell, and it looks worse than the alternative. I have two friends' husbands who dye their hair. I want to shake them and tell them to let it go salt & pepper (or just salt!), but I'm clearly not supposed to know about the hair dye.

People complain about and judge women's hair and makeup all the time.

I think that, if you do it right, it can look great.

My DH turned completely grey at age 40, and is now pretty much white-haired at 44 years old.

At 40, he was searching for a new job in the legal industry. Many of the interviewers expressed surprise at how young he was. I was worried about age discrimination, but fortunately he got a good job. If he had had trouble with finding a new job, he was considering covering up his grey.

He's in great shape, and his skin is really smooth and not wrinkled at all, but his hair makes him look so much older. People constantly express surprise at how he is much younger than they would have guessed.

He jokes that "I don't need to color my hair -- I'm already married." I still think he looks handsome. But he would look even better with some dark hair mixed with the grey.

OP here. Actually, that Touch of Gray video is kind of the look I want. I want some gray. Just toned down. And it seems to work gradually, application by application, so maybe I can control better what I want on my own. If it works.

Double standard. No one complains about women coloring their hair and wearing makeup. Why should different rules apply to men? Do you want people judging you as meanly as you have judged and entire gender?

Anonymous wrote:Please don't. You can tell, and it looks worse than the alternative. I have two friends' husbands who dye their hair. I want to shake them and tell them to let it go salt & pepper (or just salt!), but I'm clearly not supposed about the hair dye.

Anonymous wrote:Please don't. You can tell, and it looks worse than the alternative. I have two friends' husbands who dye their hair. I want to shake them and tell them to let it go salt & pepper (or just salt!), but I'm clearly not supposed about the hair dye.

They need a better colorist.

My stylist has several executive male clients whose hair she regularly applies color to. Some just want less gray; the others have a full head done. My DH started out with just a little combed in at the temples five years ago. He gradually has gone to almost a full head treatment since it looks great on him. She also will apply color to his eyebrows to keep things balanced. He looks ten years younger and that helps him fit in with the other execs, who are five to ten years younger.

Please don't. You can tell, and it looks worse than the alternative. I have two friends' husbands who dye their hair. I want to shake them and tell them to let it go salt & pepper (or just salt!), but I'm clearly not supposed about the hair dye.

My DH does. He has great hair and doesn't want to look old. He just turned 60 but does marathons and beat guys in his office who are 27, 28. He works out every day and most people think he's 48 or 50.

He gets those color sticks at CVS...about $12 a box. He has always been good looking. I met him in college and he weighs the exact same amount.

I had reddish-brown hair and went gray very early (genetic thing). Although the gray (now mostly white) is mismatched with the rest of my physical appearance, I'm glad I have a full head of hair to complain about.

I'm 55 and graying. I know, I should age gracefully, but . . ..

I am working with my hair stylist to "tone down" the gray. I tried plain coloring first but it was too dark. Then I tried something called "glazing" which is supposed to be a lighter touch to color, but it still looks too colored (dark). I'm looking for something in between full dark and natural gray. I don't know why. Just wonder what you do.