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Anonymous

11/07/2016 21:23 Subject: Re:Confused, am I really bisexual?

Stop dating for a while, and focus on yourself. Find out who you are. Travel. Experience. Explore. Have a few encounters with no strings attached.

Anonymous

11/01/2016 21:09 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Does it really matter which sex the other person is?

That's how I feel sometimes. At the end of the day, I want someone kind and reliable. Period.

Anonymous

11/01/2016 21:04 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Sounds like you are definitely more interested with women and that that will be the ultimate love of your life.

Anonymous

11/01/2016 21:03 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

You are bi/pan but only have romantic love and intimacy for women. You need to work through your hurt and figure out how to love again. Love is risky but I think it's worth it.

-Bi woman who usually falls in love with men

bookworm

11/01/2016 10:55 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Anonymous wrote:Just focus on your own life for a while and see who you fall in love with.

Anonymous

06/29/2016 18:04 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Just focus on your own life for a while and see who you fall in love with.

Anonymous

06/29/2016 17:01 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Anonymous wrote:Sounds to me that your issue is not your sexual orientation but that you have problems with intimacy regardless of the gender of the person you're dating. I noticed that you said you fell really hard for two women but it was unrequited. With the men, you had relationships but you didn't "fall hard" for them. Maybe you have a hard time being intimate with anyone who is actually available.

At any rate, can you just leave yourself open to either gender and see who comes along?

This. The fact that you are open to and desire both genders to a degree means you're probably somewhere on the spectrum that isn't totally gay or totally straight. Where exactly is debatable and for many bi/pan people that isn't really stable. It sounds like you haven't met the right person, and maybe have some personal issues to deal with to be ready when they do come along.

Anonymous

06/29/2016 16:05 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Sounds to me that your issue is not your sexual orientation but that you have problems with intimacy regardless of the gender of the person you're dating. I noticed that you said you fell really hard for two women but it was unrequited. With the men, you had relationships but you didn't "fall hard" for them. Maybe you have a hard time being intimate with anyone who is actually available.

At any rate, can you just leave yourself open to either gender and see who comes along?

Anonymous

06/29/2016 14:42 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Anonymous wrote:I came out at 21 and dated women exclusively until 25. I fell in love pretty hard twice, both times unrequited. My heart hurts so much that I can't see myself in a relationship with a woman in the future. I'm 29 now and I've been dating men exclusively for 3 years. I am confident that I want to settle down, but I can't help but feel that I just don't share a strong connection with a guy. I'm puzzled. I've never been in love with any of my boyfriends, I can't have a deep connection whatsoever. But I enjoyed spending time with them and I liked the sex. With women, I just wasn't into the sex. But of course, looking at a woman gets me excited. And I loved connecting with them. I just got out of a relationship, but I want to take the time to figure out what is the best long term fit for me. What is the best way to go about this?

I am very similar. Dated men from 17-21. Dated women from 21-32 then switched back to men after getting my heart broken. Dated mostly men with a couple exceptions here and there. Now, I'm more interested in dating women at 40 after a rather disappointing but not heartbreaking experience dating a guy.

I have only been in love with women. I do not think I am made to have a deep soul connection with a man. I enjoy sex (VERY MUCH

) with both. I guess the best way to go about it is to let yourself be attracted to whoever. I believe you have to seek women out more than men, so if you're interested in dating women, you have to go into the community.

Anonymous

05/17/2016 16:52 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Sounds like you are bi or pan and just haven't met the right person.

Anonymous

05/17/2016 14:52 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Anonymous wrote:Take some time out to really get to know yourself and find out who you really are. Things will fall into place when you least expect it.

Good advice no matter what your sexual orientation is.

Anonymous

05/17/2016 14:31 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

Take some time out to really get to know yourself and find out who you really are. Things will fall into place when you least expect it.

Anonymous

05/17/2016 12:58 Subject: Re:Confused, am I really bisexual?

Conversely I think you just haven't met the right man yet.

Anonymous

05/17/2016 12:55 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

I think you are more aligned with women but have not met the right one.

Anonymous

05/16/2016 10:24 Subject: Confused, am I really bisexual?

I came out at 21 and dated women exclusively until 25. I fell in love pretty hard twice, both times unrequited. My heart hurts so much that I can't see myself in a relationship with a woman in the future. I'm 29 now and I've been dating men exclusively for 3 years. I am confident that I want to settle down, but I can't help but feel that I just don't share a strong connection with a guy. I'm puzzled. I've never been in love with any of my boyfriends, I can't have a deep connection whatsoever. But I enjoyed spending time with them and I liked the sex. With women, I just wasn't into the sex. But of course, looking at a woman gets me excited. And I loved connecting with them. I just got out of a relationship, but I want to take the time to figure out what is the best long term fit for me. What is the best way to go about this?