Anonymous
Post 05/16/2016 05:35     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
OP, you don't need your spouse's permission to leave. You don't need his permission to take your child somewhere. Period. You have not committed any crime.

The fact that he could convince you that you are doing something wrong is evidence of how abused you are.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 22:20     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Anonymous wrote:http://www.thehotline.org

Start there. Good luck.


Thank you .
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 20:39     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?

Funny how abusive people put it in your head how YOU'LL get in trouble for seeking safety.

I've been there. All I can say is call the police. Talk to a Desk Officer. It's the best, smartest, most satisfying thing I ever did. Having their support is something I still carry with me.


Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 20:20     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you planning on returning after a day or two, or is this the end? His behavior is verbally abusive and destructive. If you don't think you can go back without having objects thrown at you, then call a lawyer and/or a women's hotline on how to safely start proceedings. If you plan on "teaching him a lesson" and then returning, seek therapy with or without him. You cannot fix his temper and you may not be able to convince him to change.


I don't know . I just had to get out of there . We have a 4 month old . This behavior started when I was in the third trimester . I'm constantly on eggs shells with him . This fight started because he thinks cloths diapers are bad for the baby .


Please call the hotline, explain what happened and ask what are your next steps.
Here's what I would do, but they may have better ideas:

1. Boot him off your financial accounts if you have your own source of income.

2. Return home with several witnesses, or a police officer. Do NOT return alone.

3. Gather up your paperwork, computer, essentials and leave.

4. Begin procedure for divorce.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 20:10     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?

As long as you didn't tell him where you were, it's fine.

Please call a couple of family members and friends to tell them what happened. I know it's difficult to tell people, but a those have your welfare at heart should know about the situation, for your own safety.

Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 20:06     Subject: Re:Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Probably should call a domestic abuse hotline. Asking strangers if it's okay to take your daughter out for fear of your husband is NOT normal. Yeah, not a good husband you have there. It's time to do some serious thinking for the safety of you and your child. Good luck and hope for the best for you.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:33     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
http://www.thehotline.org

Start there. Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:31     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Anonymous wrote:Are you planning on returning after a day or two, or is this the end? His behavior is verbally abusive and destructive. If you don't think you can go back without having objects thrown at you, then call a lawyer and/or a women's hotline on how to safely start proceedings. If you plan on "teaching him a lesson" and then returning, seek therapy with or without him. You cannot fix his temper and you may not be able to convince him to change.


I don't know . I just had to get out of there . We have a 4 month old . This behavior started when I was in the third trimester . I'm constantly on eggs shells with him . This fight started because he thinks cloths diapers are bad for the baby .
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:27     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Are you planning on returning after a day or two, or is this the end? His behavior is verbally abusive and destructive. If you don't think you can go back without having objects thrown at you, then call a lawyer and/or a women's hotline on how to safely start proceedings. If you plan on "teaching him a lesson" and then returning, seek therapy with or without him. You cannot fix his temper and you may not be able to convince him to change.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:24     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
OP you can take your child for a night without anyone's permission. Unless you're divorced and aren't on "your" time.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:21     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Anonymous wrote:Why are you asking us? Seems you should be contacting the police.


and an attorney
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:20     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
Why are you asking us? Seems you should be contacting the police.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:19     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
I'm guessing there is more of a history here about what your DH "permits" you to do. Sorry, OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:17     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
I got into a huge fight with dh because he has a very short temper . He throws stuff and gets angry over the littlest stuff . I contacted him after getting to a hotel to let him know we're staying here for a night . Is this ok ? Could he get the police involved ?
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2016 19:14     Subject: Is it ok to take child for a night without dhs "permission " ?
As long as I informed him where we are going ?