I thought it was funny, OP. Sorry your mom is a PITA.

The thread title and original post serve to show how big of a drama queen OP is.

+5 points for "importune". Underused word.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

Maybe many DCUMers dreamed of being hot shot psychiatrists but weren't sharp enough to queeze even to a third-tier med school You're right, there's a lot of that going on. Narcissism, BPD, depression, you name it: They diagnose it long-distance and completely anonymously. They don't even need photos!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

Yeah, I agree with you.

I mean, maybe there's an official diagnosis OP's mom has. However, from the post it just seems like some typical PITA.

And, honestly, I think there's likely a great deal many women in their 60s and 70s who have struggled with mental health issues all their lives and never had a proper structure that encouraged and supported reaching out for help. How many of us in our 30s and 40s are popping cocktails of anti-depressants, anxiety meds, etc. Or even managing conditions through diet, exercise, and meditation? ADD was barely recognized in children, much less in adults. Our moms in the 70s and 80s muddled through a time of rampant change for women and medicine with regards to the affect of brain chemistry and our moods.

In the present, OP and others, their issues are a PITA for us. But have some compassion, too.

Yawn....

^^^^
Someone appears to "boarder line," or maybe "npd..."

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

Yeah, I agree with you.

I mean, maybe there's an official diagnosis OP's mom has. However, from the post it just seems like some typical PITA.

And, honestly, I think there's likely a great deal many women in their 60s and 70s who have struggled with mental health issues all their lives and never had a proper structure that encouraged and supported reaching out for help. How many of us in our 30s and 40s are popping cocktails of anti-depressants, anxiety meds, etc. Or even managing conditions through diet, exercise, and meditation? ADD was barely recognized in children, much less in adults. Our moms in the 70s and 80s muddled through a time of rampant change for women and medicine with regards to the affect of brain chemistry and our moods.

In the present, OP and others, their issues are a PITA for us. But have some compassion, too.

Yawn....

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

Yeah, I agree with you.

I mean, maybe there's an official diagnosis OP's mom has. However, from the post it just seems like some typical PITA.

And, honestly, I think there's likely a great deal many women in their 60s and 70s who have struggled with mental health issues all their lives and never had a proper structure that encouraged and supported reaching out for help. How many of us in our 30s and 40s are popping cocktails of anti-depressants, anxiety meds, etc. Or even managing conditions through diet, exercise, and meditation? ADD was barely recognized in children, much less in adults. Our moms in the 70s and 80s muddled through a time of rampant change for women and medicine with regards to the affect of brain chemistry and our moods.

In the present, OP and others, their issues are a PITA for us. But have some compassion, too.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

I have relative diagnosed as borderline and a lot of this definitely smells like it.

That said OP, you need to set better boundaries. You should have shut this conversation down and never mixed her into your personal matters. Any stepping back will be 'abandonment' and whoa will that turn into a shat storm.

Check out medium chill and 'walking on eggshells'

Anonymous wrote:Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

Hi mom! Didn't know you DCUM!

Nothing in your post indicates that she is "borderline." A pain in the ass but not borderline. Why doe people continue to throw around diagnosis without any understanding of what they are diagnosing?

How refreshing to see it written up humorously, instead of hand-wringingly! Thanks, OP.

But I know how frustrating it is, OP. I have a borderline mother and an occasionally borderline husband.

Thanks for the update. That was funny.

I'm sorry, too, OP. I hope you have a good counselor that helps you with boundaries. Hugs.

Sorry, op. My mil is borderline - I get how exhausting and irrational it all is. Hugs.

Recap of our last episode: In our last episode, My Borderline Mother (MBM) needed a haircut, but claimed that there were no hairdressers to be found in New York City. None. Not a one. Not one single hairdresser in New York City (or seemingly Brooklyn or any of the Outer Boroughs) could give her a straight, blunt bob haircut. She had tried, but it simply couldn't be done. In a state of learned helplessness and collapsed boundaries, she turned to me and insisted that she needed an appointment with my hairdresser in Silver Spring, MD -- obviously a mecca of hairstyling. Why? >He seems to know how to do hair." On her last visit to town, I paid for her to get a haircut not with my hairdresser, but with another haircutter in that salon.

In this weeks epsode, MBM calls and importunes me yet again to make an appointment with "Jean-Louis" (pseudonym). Why? The haircut with "Mabel" (pseudonym) simply "didn't work for her" (although she loved it at the time). Why will a haircut with Jean-Louis work any better than a haircut in NYC? She will come down, get her haircut by Jean-Louis, and use it as a model for haircutters in NYC. (??). Why not just take the $$$ she would spend on plane fare + $$ on Jean Louis and go to a high end salon in NYC? No answer!

And that concludes today's thrilling episode of...My Borderline Mother!