It's probably the bad breath thing.

That'd gut punch me too. Once, my SIL was drinking (though not drunk) and at a dinner with lots of people while talking about the possibility of having a baby with my brother she said, "If I could just clone myself to have a baby, I would." And I was thinking, "Wow, if you think our genes are that awful why'd you even marry Brother?"

Cut to now - she has a baby (not cloned, but with my brother's genes in there too) and we are polite but not at all friendly or close.

Anonymous wrote:I would feel bad too.

I would too. And I know that I would not feel the same again. I'm sorry, OP.

I would feel bad too.

The title of your post is a bit dramatic OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Some people may like their inlaws but still think others don't necessarily want to hang with them. Or maybe she was oddly a little jealous that you and her friend were hitting it off to whatever degree, so she said something joking but awkward. I wouldn't worry about it.

+1

+2 I also think this was more about her than about you.

If you otherwise have a good relationship, I would let this go as a moment of stupidity and obnoxiousness. Don't let it define your relationship.

I've seen too many relationships (mine own included) ruined because of people overanalyzing and second-guessing others.

I'd ask her but I like things to be direct and clear

Anonymous wrote:Some people may like their inlaws but still think others don't necessarily want to hang with them. Or maybe she was oddly a little jealous that you and her friend were hitting it off to whatever degree, so she said something joking but awkward. I wouldn't worry about it.

+1

How did the friend react?

Don't read too much into it. I could see it just being a general joke about bringing a friend to a family event and joking about how awful your family is in general.

Some people may like their inlaws but still think others don't necessarily want to hang with them. Or maybe she was oddly a little jealous that you and her friend were hitting it off to whatever degree, so she said something joking but awkward. I wouldn't worry about it.

First off, she was drunk. Secondly, why do you care what drunk people say? She's obviously not a perfect person, so don't beat yourself up over it. Even if you had bad breath, or talk too much, that's preferable to being a drunk.

Maybe since she was doing a faux whisper, she thought she was making a joke. Drunk humor is different from sober humor. If you've always had a good relationship, I wouldn't let one drunk comment ruin it.

I have no siblings, and DH just has one sister, so we are a small family unit and spend a lot of time together. SIL and I have different interests but get along well and (I thought) have true affection for one another.

Last night at a large gathering, I was chatting with one of SIL's friends, and SIL (who was a bit drunk) came over and asked her friend if she needed to be rescued. SIL thought she was whispering, but obviously wasn't.

I can't stop replaying it and just feel so blue. I can think of only two possibilities -- that I had bad breath or that I talk too much -- but I don't have any reason to think it was either of those, so I'm at a loss.

If I thought it would resolve anything, I might ask SIL about it, but I think she'd just pretend not to remember saying it and it would only make things awkward.

I just feel sad. Thanks for reading.