White means white.
You need to wear white, not a printed dress with white in it.

Anonymous wrote:What about this?

https://www.indigenous.com/fashion/womens/dresses/luxury-spring-wrap-dress-white/organic-fair-trade-eco-friendly/

White wrap dresses come close to looking like bathrobes, so be careful! Your styling will be important. I think the wedding will look amazing but I agree it's an imposition on the guests.

Something like this with more coverage would be good. Thanks to you, and all of the other PPs, for the links.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe something like this?

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/eliza-j-lace-fit-flare-dress-regular-petite/4248494

Good god, no. That's hideous.

I appreciate your sympathy, but it's misplaced. Neither of the brides are wearing a gown. It's not the center of attention or bride's perfect day type wedding. It's honoring and celebrating their very long relationship, and their newly-attained right to marry.

Again, I think the monochrome thing is a neat idea. It's not an imposition. I just didn't know how white the attire is supposed to be. I see bright colors plus white aren't what's expected.

Does anyone know if white background with very mild colors is ok? I'm trying to figure out which dresses are a possibility. My bust size is about 6 dress sizes larger than the rest of me. Finding a dress is a challenge.

What about this?

https://www.indigenous.com/fashion/womens/dresses/luxury-spring-wrap-dress-white/organic-fair-trade-eco-friendly/

White wrap dresses come close to looking like bathrobes, so be careful! Your styling will be important. I think the wedding will look amazing but I agree it's an imposition on the guests.

OP the only reason I responded to this thread is last week, I was walking on a bluff overlooking the ocean, and there was a gathering of people dressed in white. It was a (Jewish) wedding and they broke the glass just as we were walking by.

I had never seen anything like it, all in white, even the photographer. It was actually visually striking.

And yes, a huge imposition. Unlike the bride, I'm sure the guests haven't been working out and eating right for months, and getting their makeup done so they can look fabulous in their dress which took months to pick out.

However; it does lend a sort of cameraderie; it's a uniform, if you think about it, and tends to do what uniforms do in terms of the mental inclusiveness state of mind.

I am glad you are putting on a game face and going. I think that this situation calls for either doing it or not showing up. If someone showed up in, say, red, it not only wrecks the visual, but makes the person in red pop out, not the bride. Yikes. This makes me think that that kind of request really leaves the bride vulnerable on her day to be the center of attention.

Again, I am sympathetic and do not think this is a great idea but glad you are trying to comply.

Maybe something like this?

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/eliza-j-lace-fit-flare-dress-regular-petite/4248494

Anonymous wrote:That's not really a white dress. Are you looking for a wrap-style dress?

Yes, wrap style and it needs to be stretchy, or heavily altered. I have 2 dresses that are white backgrounds, but have bright flowers on them. If those aren't white enough, I'll need to look for a new dress.

I knew some people would think it's ridiculous. I think it's a neat idea, and will happily wear white. You should feel free to decline any similar invitations.

Maybe this?

https://m.whitehouseblackmarket.com/store/product/ultimate-sheath-dress/570163738?color=&catId=cat6219285&fromSearch=true

That's not really a white dress. Are you looking for a wrap-style dress?

Too much color for a white party, and yea, I agree with pp that it's ridiculous. Have you looked at White House, Black Market for something?

I would probably just RSVP no.

For the crazy people who asked for this, no that dress wouldn't do because the accent colors are bold and prominent. What about something like this?

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/bar-iii-cap-sleeve-fit-flare-dress?ID=1975629&pla_country=US&CAGPSPN=pla&CAWELAID=120156340000662623&CAAGID=15321443461&CATCI=pla-85533027181&catargetid=120156340001235596&cadevice=t&cm_mmc=Google_Womens_PLA-_-RTW+Womens_Women%27s+Dresses_Bar+Iii-_-66679399021_-_-_mkwid_hEesO1Bf%7Cdt_66679399021%7C-%7ChEesO1Bf&gclid=CKHX9ubuuMwCFQZZhgodCJMCTA

I agree with PP that the entire idea is stupid and a huge imposition on the guests. On the other hand, when there's a color limitation, the dressings factor is often lowered.

This is ridiculous.

I don't have any issue with wearing a certain color. I'm sure it will make their wedding photos look awesome. It is generally extraordinarily difficult for me to find dresses that fit. I could wear a skirt and shirt, but prefer it only as a last resort.

They asked us to wear white. Does that mean it has to be solid white? White background with a print ok?

What about something like this?
http://www.ifashionself.com/ivy-blu-womens-34-sleeve-floral-wrap-dress-whitemulticolor/

Is there anyone here who planned a similar wedding?