Anonymous wrote:I was an RA in grad school. In my first year (I was 22), I went up to a prof after class to ask a question, and he asked me if I wanted to go get drinks with him. When I said no, he asked if I wanted to go to dinner instead. A few days later, he showed up in my dorm one evening and asked if I wanted to show him the art prints on my walls, which he'd heard me discussing with another student in class. I didn't want to take him into my room, of course, and he was really pushy before finally leaving.
He's still teaching, and a lot of his students love him. I never told anyone because he apparently showed a different side to everyone else, and I didn't think anyone would believe me.
I'm really proud of you for saying no, repeatedly. I believe you. My DD is 13 and has been having lunch with her math teacher (female). I've been trying to figure out how to talk with her about moving a relationship from student/teacher to friendship.