Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My wife is low drive, it's the elephant in the room. I am really, really, really trying to find a way to feel content and connected with her in between the 2-3x per month we have sex. Here's the problem. Nothing replaces sex. It's a void. I have cheated in the past, never caught. Trying like hell not to again because our marriage is otherwise great.
So I would love to hear from others too, what can work to bridge the void?
That being said - why the hell would you stay if you have no kids? Although my wife and I are perfect but for the passion, I would be gone in a moment if we didn't have kids together.
Hi Sweetie, Just so you know I KNOW all about your cheating. I think your an ass but I pretend to put up with you for the kids sake. I know you will cheat again and that will be the final straw. Pick someone you really care about as you will find your crap on the street, bank accounts wiped out and divorce papers (well, those are already done).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you low drive? I think it can work if both spouses are low drive. I'm in the same situation where I'm happy enough being married but have zero attraction to my spouse. The problem is I'm not low drive and I'm attracted to others. Cheating doesn't seem viable, and divorce seems selfish when we have kids and it would ultimately be simply for my personal happiness, which might not even happen if I don't meet someone else who I do have passion with.
Honestly, I've considered meds that would lower my libido. It seems kind of out there as a solution but I don't know what else to do.
while i haven't considered meds to lower my libido, everything else i could have written word for word. i am a DW if it matters.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My wife is low drive, it's the elephant in the room. I am really, really, really trying to find a way to feel content and connected with her in between the 2-3x per month we have sex. Here's the problem. Nothing replaces sex. It's a void. I have cheated in the past, never caught. Trying like hell not to again because our marriage is otherwise great.
So I would love to hear from others too, what can work to bridge the void?
That being said - why the hell would you stay if you have no kids? Although my wife and I are perfect but for the passion, I would be gone in a moment if we didn't have kids together.
Hi Sweetie, Just so you know I KNOW all about your cheating. I think your an ass but I pretend to put up with you for the kids sake. I know you will cheat again and that will be the final straw. Pick someone you really care about as you will find your crap on the street, bank accounts wiped out and divorce papers (well, those are already done).
Anonymous wrote:My wife is low drive, it's the elephant in the room. I am really, really, really trying to find a way to feel content and connected with her in between the 2-3x per month we have sex. Here's the problem. Nothing replaces sex. It's a void. I have cheated in the past, never caught. Trying like hell not to again because our marriage is otherwise great.
So I would love to hear from others too, what can work to bridge the void?
That being said - why the hell would you stay if you have no kids? Although my wife and I are perfect but for the passion, I would be gone in a moment if we didn't have kids together.
Anonymous wrote:Are you low drive? I think it can work if both spouses are low drive. I'm in the same situation where I'm happy enough being married but have zero attraction to my spouse. The problem is I'm not low drive and I'm attracted to others. Cheating doesn't seem viable, and divorce seems selfish when we have kids and it would ultimately be simply for my personal happiness, which might not even happen if I don't meet someone else who I do have passion with.
Honestly, I've considered meds that would lower my libido. It seems kind of out there as a solution but I don't know what else to do.