If she's talking about you like that to other people, negating your experience of life, then start backing away from the people who cross paths with her and get your own life, completely separate from her. It's hard to be around someone who tries to erase you as a person in your own right and only sees you as an extension of their life.

Sorry at this point you're an adult. You need to accept your mother for who she is and not seek support from her and break toxic relationships form your childhood. You need to find your own support outside of your mom. And get away from the abuse. It's all part of growing up and I know you can do it!

What have the doctors suggested for the chest pain?

Anonymous wrote:Stop depending on her. Stop telling her about your problems. Stop expecting her to be there for you.

It's insanity to repeat the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome. SHE IS NOT THERE FOR YOU.

You might need therapy to break your habits.

I did. I have a borderline mother.

Stop depending on her. Stop telling her about your problems. Stop expecting her to be there for you.

It's insanity to repeat the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome. SHE IS NOT THERE FOR YOU.

A bipolar, narcissist mother is never going to be there for you. Time to start coming to terms with that. You'll be angry about it for a long while, and you will eventually accept it. The sooner the better, so start working on that.

Be your own support, be your own mother to yourself. Bring others into your life who you can talk to and who can be there for you. Get independence and some distance from your mom and create firm boundaries.

Don't waste your time and energy trying to change her or trying to get support and validation from her. She can't change. It's up to you to focus on creating your life for yourself. Don't wait around for her.

I speak from long experience.

I am so sick and tired of my family, especially my mother. I am 26, female, and have been having chronic health issues for the past 6 months ( Chest pain and acid reflux). I am in the process of ruling in or out Mitral Valve Prolapse. I've been under a lot of stress and anxiety over my constant and prolonged chest pains. My mom ( who is bipolar) thinks she knows everything. She's a bad mother who is very unsupportive of everything, and incredibly narcissistic. She is also a hypochondriac. My mom is telling everyone in my family that I'm a hypochondriac and that there isn't anything wrong with me. She acts like she knows everything and likes to be verbally abusive when she is proven wrong or doesn't get her way.

I am so tired of it all. I'm under so much stress with the worry of all of this, and I hate not having a support system. It's upsetting that I have to go through alone, as well as she not caring if I do have a heart issue. She's very into herself and aways needs the spotlight. She everyone down and makes them feel so significant.