Who genuinely cares after the age of 21? Sure, I'll take dinner with my husband and a homemade card from the kids. Maybe even some FB messages and birthday donuts at work. Whatever! I am not 4 AND A HALF!

Get a cake with both of our names and call it a day. Who cares about this stuff?

Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you have the same birthday as MIL and it falls on the weekend?

I do not understand these questions from adults. You know you don't have to celebrate ON your birthday, right? And neither does she, to be fair.

How lucky for you both! You can throw a big joint party! Hire a dj, get a caterer, make it epic!

Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you have the same birthday as MIL and it falls on the weekend?

omgomgomgomg....who will blow out the candles first....omgomgomgomg !!!!

GROW. UP. STUPID. OP!!!

Oh God. I feel SO SORRY for all the DILs who are antagonistic towards their MILs, because obviously you were not taught to be diplomatic by your mothers, instead you were taught to behave life female Donald Trump.

My MIL adores me now, but was not warm and fuzzy towards me in the beginning. She adored my SIL in the beginning and she hates her now. Why did this happen? Be very nice to your MIL all the time. It does not mean being a doormat or buying expensive stuff for her, but it means being very gracious and loving in your speech and manners towards her.

THis is not a woman who is your parent, and she has no hold over you. Why do you have to take everything so personally? If she is unimportant to you, then it should be easier to be nice to her, even if she is not nice to you. My motto is to be extra nice and attentive to people who are rude to me, so that they become embarrassed by their own behavior.

Is it dishonest? I don't think so. I call it being smart enough to excel in the art of diplomacy. Remember, people like people who like them. If a person feels that you don't like them, they will never like you, even if you are America's sweetheart.

Are you 5? Why does having your own, special birthday matter to you? Don't wanna share bouncy castle with MIL? Take your little "shocked emoticon" and go for a hike.

Send DH and the kids to her while I go eat and do whatever I want.

How do you usually spend your birthdays?

In my family we have monthly birthdays for the adults, and celebrate all the birthdays of the month at the closet time we will all be together.
Example my SIL and I are both born in November. We have a cake on Thanksgiving.

If it's a milestone for your MIL and there is going to be a party of course you go to that.

I'm sure your husband can figure it out. The whole day doesn't need to be about either of you. You are adults after all.

I don't have anything to offer, but feel for you. My MIL's birthday is 5/10 and my DH's birthday is 5/9, so Mother's Day is always a crap fest for me.

I would spend my birthday how I want it.

You're adults; not 5 year olds. Figure it out.

Do what you feels comfortable. Share if u want, separate celebration if you prefer it.

Just remind your husband to spend some quality time with his mother one-on-one. Most moms miss having private time with the children once they get married.

Do you usually celebrate your birthdays together?

What would you do if you have the same birthday as MIL and it falls on the weekend?