Anonymous wrote:op here. We don't not force it. But I do make them do some activity, like walking or swimming.

I asked if other people force it, we don't. Calm down, it was a question.

We don't force it, though I do try to encourage my son to do something, anything!

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a teen boy that doesn't take weekly instrument lessons? If so, do you force it?

Anyone have a teen boy who doesn't participate in theater, painting or dance? If so, do you force this?

+1

I have a tween boy who loves fencing, swimming, archery, riding and other non-team sports.

Why would I force him to do anything? (other than brush his teeth...)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you force it?

DS is in fencing. He is better with an individual sport instead of a team sport.

Same with my DS. He tried team sports and didn't like them so he started fencing at age 7 or 8 and loved it.

op here. We don't not force it. But I do make them do some activity, like walking or swimming.

I asked if other people force it, we don't. Calm down, it was a question.

Anyone have a teen boy that doesn't take weekly instrument lessons? If so, do you force it?

Anyone have a teen boy who doesn't participate in theater, painting or dance? If so, do you force this?

what a ridiculous question. would you force art classes? or ballet? of course not. children are people with their own interests.

Sure. He does theater, computers and music, plus runs and works out with his dad.

Of course there are teens who don't play team sports. Many kids are no athletic and/or don't enjoy team sports.

Does he do anything physical or athletic? If so, no big thing. If not, I'd try to find something he'd enjoy that maybe he hasn't thought of, but that he could keep doing in college and beyond. Regular physical activity is so important for the mind and the body.

I'm a woman, but dance gave me something I could join wherever I moved and a ready-made language to talk to new people. When I got to grad school and could no longer afford dance classes, weight-lifting at the school gym became my new "sport," and when I moved cross-country for my first job, it gave me a place I could go, feel comfortable, know the activity, gradually meet people...

And, it's good for you!

My son is 24 now, but he didn't do organized sports, and no, I didn't force it. He played a lot of driveway basketball, rode his bike around with his friends, roller hockey in the street with friends, drummed and played piano, sometimes swam, taught himself to cook, and went to Stanford.

Why would I have pushed it? I don't think he really watches sports either, aside from Olympics.

Anonymous wrote:hi, Op

I don't have teen boys but I do have a brother who was not into organized sports. He enjoyed bike riding and swimming and never really did organized sports. I really don't understand why you would force anyone to do something that they didn't enjoy. You can encourage them to do something physically but, it seems a disaster in the making for everyone to 'force it'. What do you think the response would be if the title was should I force my daughter into fashion or modeling?

Just let him be.

I agree. Don't force.

We have lots of hiking/walking trails. It's easy to do and will keep the family in shape.

hi, Op

I don't have teen boys but I do have a brother who was not into organized sports. He enjoyed bike riding and swimming and never really did organized sports. I really don't understand why you would force anyone to do something that they didn't enjoy. You can encourage them to do something physically but, it seems a disaster in the making for everyone to 'force it'. What do you think the response would be if the title was should I force my daughter into fashion or modeling?

Just let him be.

Anonymous wrote:Do you force it?

DS is in fencing. He is better with an individual sport instead of a team sport.

Do you force it?