Anonymous wrote:Mine wants to be called Grandmother Last Name. It is so weird. She is lower middle class.

As in "Can I have a hug Grandmother Smith?"

Geez

Mine wants to be called Grandmother Last Name. It is so weird. She is lower middle class.

Anonymous wrote:LOL I can think of a name...

This

Friends of my parents go by Poops and Grumps.

POOPS AND GRUMPS.

Anonymous wrote:Once your kids get old enough they might pick a name for her! This happened to my Mom with my first. Luckily she liked it and all the grandkids now call her Grummy!

+1

Anonymous wrote:You know, the grandchildren often come up with their own special names for grandparents.

My mother had a very proper, bordering on pretentious old lady friend who years ago, insisted that her first and only grandson call her "Grahhhhd Mamma" (say it in a theatrical, vaguely British accent). So awful and no way was this little boy going to say it properly and to her liking.

By the time grandson was three (and after unsuccessful corrections by Grahhhhd Mamma) he called her Gooonahnah
and more often than not, Goonie!

Careful what you wish for, GraahndMa-Mah!

I shouldn't be tickled by this, but ...

Anonymous wrote:Oh, dear, what can the matter be? Grandmama is so late at the fair.

Your MIL sounds much like my MIL. (I would have a hard time calling anyone Grandmama without going into a high falsetto.) Just refer to her as Grandmama and eventually in a few years it will take (maybe).

OP here. I failed to mention in my original post that my husband and I just call her "Grandma" or "Grandma Sarah." She "corrects" us to "Grandmama" now, and while he sincerely tries and forgets, I must admit that I don't try and I just forget/don't care. I'm just like, whatever...

If she would drop it, I'd probably make more of an effort, but I just can't when she's leaping into every casual conversation/interaction, like, "IT'S GRANDMAMA NOW, REMEMBER?"

You know, the grandchildren often come up with their own special names for grandparents.

My mother had a very proper, bordering on pretentious old lady friend who years ago, insisted that her first and only grandson call her "Grahhhhd Mamma" (say it in a theatrical, vaguely British accent). So awful and no way was this little boy going to say it properly and to her liking.

By the time grandson was three (and after unsuccessful corrections by Grahhhhd Mamma) he called her Gooonahnah
and more often than not, Goonie!

Careful what you wish for, GraahndMa-Mah!

Oh, dear, what can the matter be? Grandmama is so late at the fair.

Your MIL sounds much like my MIL. (I would have a hard time calling anyone Grandmama without going into a high falsetto.) Just refer to her as Grandmama and eventually in a few years it will take (maybe).

Anonymous wrote:Once your kids get old enough they might pick a name for her! This happened to my Mom with my first. Luckily she liked it and all the grandkids now call her Grummy!

Ha! Snort. Hilarious.

LOL I can think of a name...

She's screwed and did it herself.

Once your kids get old enough they might pick a name for her! This happened to my Mom with my first. Luckily she liked it and all the grandkids now call her Grummy!

Wow, what a piece of work.

You don't need to do much here, OP. She dug her own hole.

While I like my MIL and we get along, one issue has been driving me crazy for three years now. Would this bother you?

My DD was my parents' fourth grandchild and MIL/FIL's first. My mother had already been established as "Grandma." My MIL knew that, and worried that she wanted that moniker, too, but that it would be confusing. We told her to pick whatever she wanted, and we'd make it work. She settled on "Grandma."

Then my daughter was born, and she didn't like being called "Grandma Sarah" around my mom, whom we called "Grandma Jane" when both grandmas were around. So MIL decided she'd bee "Nana." Fine. Three months later, she decided to go by "Nanny." Sure...whatever you like, kid isn't old enough to know/care. Two months later..."I want to be called Grandma after all." ...fine, sure, whatever!

THREE YEARS LATER, with DD2 here--and now that DH's own Grandmama has passed--turns out "Grandma" wants to be called "Grandmama." Apparently, she wanted to be called Grandmama the whole time, but didn't want to do that while DH's Grandmama was still alive, out of respect or something. OK, sure, fine, WHATEVER, JUST PICK A NAME, LADY!

MIL is now upset that my 2.5-year-old calls her only "Grandma Sarah," because that's what we called MIL the most during her "call me Grandma" days, to differentiate her from the ALREADY ESTABLISHED "GRANDMA." Ahem.

If MIL had just picked "Grandmama" from the outset--or literally ANY OTHER NICKNAME but the one that my mom had already "claimed"--none of this would be an issue. She talks about it EVERY time we are together, and she truly is upset/indignant that DD1 calls her "Grandma Sarah."

End of vent. Thanks for listening.