Anonymous wrote:I was like this. Just an introvert/loaner/didn't click with high school kids at my school. Turned out great . Spouse, kids, good profession, etc. Just had to find "my people," which I easily did in college

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Op

Have you asked your kid if they are unhappy? I was that kid in that I was happy to go home and be with my family. I had a long commute to school and had friends at school but preferred to be by myself. Now I am an adult and I have friends that I have lunch/coffee/movies but I still like to be home with my family. If my child was unhappy I would try to help but if they are fine than I wouldn't worry!

Anonymous wrote:My DS is like this. He seems to have friends at school, he mentions them occasionally, and one of them works at the same place as well. But we've never met any of them. They've never come to the house and I can count on one hand the number of times this school year he's gone out to meet any of them. He doesn't seem "close" with any if them. He's never had a girlfriend (or a boyfriend for that matter).

He does well in school, but isn't having a "punishing" high school experience, at all. He is involved in one school activity that involves once a month meetings and he has a volunteer gig two afternoons a week and a part time job on Sunday afternoons. He goes for a 3 mile run (alone or with me) 3 times a week. Other than that, he's at home. He likes to read, follows politics and current events very closely (reads the NYT and the WaPo cover to cover each day), and enjoys cooking. No gaming. He helps out around the house quite a bit. He seems to really enjoy spending time with his family. He's a model kid in many ways. He seems very happy. I worry, lol.

I'm really hoping he finds his people in college. I worry about this a lot. In fact, it's the only thing I worry about with him. He has an incredibly solid head on his shoulders and is totally *ready* to go to college. I'm just so afraid he will be lonely.

Anonymous wrote:Turned out ok. Made friends in college, doesn't hate him/her self.

I just often worry about my DC. My kid has kids to sit with at lunch, but almost nothing outside school. I wish I could fix things.

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Anonymous wrote:my brother never had friends as a teenager. He sat and read books. Lots and lots of them. I can't remember him ever having a friend over or going out with a friend. EVER. He really never left the house outside of school (and church when my parents made him).

Then he went to college (at age 17) and he blossomed. He became quite charismatic and developed many different friendships. He ended up going to medical school and is quite successful. He has friends all over the place and is in a leadership position at work. He's also happily married (he never dated in high school either).

Sometimes it just takes time for people to mature socially.

Not OP, but this gives me hope.

Anonymous wrote:my brother never had friends as a teenager. He sat and read books. Lots and lots of them. I can't remember him ever having a friend over or going out with a friend. EVER. He really never left the house outside of school (and church when my parents made him).

Then he went to college (at age 17) and he blossomed. He became quite charismatic and developed many different friendships. He ended up going to medical school and is quite successful. He has friends all over the place and is in a leadership position at work. He's also happily married (he never dated in high school either).

Sometimes it just takes time for people to mature socially.